Not my biggest problem

Continuing on to #17 on the 25 obvious and non obvious 17. Biggest problem I have is remembering that I need to give myself more attention and love. Rather than continuously giving it all to others. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ This is Judy’s perspective.  I really like it but it is not my perspective so you get different…

Woes of People Pleasing

I’m combining these next two things that I did.  This was a monster hurdle because everyone loves someone that does everything for them, right?  Yup, lots of rewards but sometimes at a terrible cost.  The cost of myself, my relationships, my dreams, my needs didn’t exist. 12. “I feel the need to please everybody I…

Illogical solution

How can I help? When I am totally overwhelmed, it is illogical to serve someone else.  However, one of life’s paradoxes is helping others helps me feel less overwhelmed.  I tested it repeatedly and it works.  It is more fun to do dishes at my kids house than at my own house.  My heart feels…

Culture of kindness

Here in the United States many of the school districts are getting ready for students to go back to school.  I have a week of teachers meetings.  My stuff is gone through and organized.  I bought pencils and pens.  Along with the regular preparations one of the Facebook blogs posted 49 things you can do…

Service helps healing

I have too much to do.  I’m not coping I can’t handle one more thing.  NOW you recommend that I give service? So went my counseling session so many years ago.  However, I already knew the answer. I developed 7 simple changes to start taking back my life years before I started counseling.  Service was…