Pray for your enemy

I am Christian….recently I was introduced to a different concept of praying for your enemy.  I often feel like I am my own worse enemy.  My mean boss expects me to arrive early to work, stay 15 minutes later, and work on projects from school, even when I am home sick.  I call myself names…

Self Esteem Challenge

A survivor of child abuse knows that their self esteem bucket had holes punched all over it…Some of their buckets were run over by a semi-truck and trailer.  Some abuse survivors can still hear the ‘beep, beep, beep’ of that truck backing up.  Words like what Pavelka mentions for his toolbox seem like a foreign…

Letting Go!

Tough one here.  How many times I wished that the memories in my mind would be let go?  Please understand, I forgot everything about my life before high school and not much in high school  I forgot but my body didn’t let it go.  I had body memories, triggers, and extreme reactions with no understanding…

Affirmations

Many besides Pavelka use affirmations as part of their toolbox of things to do to help cope with life.  I take a dim view of them since my mother used an affirmation that she taught her students but she didn’t really believe what she said.  I get the concept but I saw a negative example. …

Negative Tape

My counselor commented that the things I say to myself are some of the worse things I’ve ever heard all compacted onto one short ugly tape, played every time I make a human mistake.  He pointed out that I would never say to someone else what I say to myself…. In Pavelka’s toolbox he called…

Instant fail

The next item on Pavelka Toolbox Pavelka Health Revolution is the Magic of 3…..List 3 things I want to accomplish the next day and place it in a prominent place.  For me, it is an instant fail because lists are a trigger for me.  His idea is a good one.  3 is manageable.  Placing it…