I found a poster on Facebook and I am linking back to where it came from. https://www.facebook.com/messageoflife1808/ People pleasing is a survival technique also called fawning. This is another way of describing laying down and letting yourself be a doormat. No one appreciates a doormat, they just wipe their feet and move on. Change…
Occasionally, the computer crashes and I totally lose a post. I decided sometime ago I needed a different approach. Attempt number 2. There are 3 things sometimes attributed to PTSD/CPTSD that are not symptoms: rudeness, cruelty, and criminal behavior. Raised in an abusive home, especially where emotional abuse is present, leaves a child missing basic…
Reviewing my possible posts idea I came across yet another one talking about boundaries. The reason I keep coming back to boundaries is that many survivors with PTSD/CPTSD or just really odd coping skills show a definite lack of boundaries. I struggled with the concept. Listening to others talk about having boundaries and feeling so…
One of the problems with PTSD/CPTSD and long term illnesses of all kinds you start to blame everything on one problem. A couple of years ago I went to the doctor and he asked me a set of questions. I answered yes to everyone of them and I blamed it all on PTSD/CPTSD. Was I…
My sister and I walk and talk almost every Saturday. We end the walk with breakfast at P.Croissant. (Really yummy and soy free!) We share with each other our week. We live very different lives but we share history and understand each other. We chat about the things we write in posts, how events effect…
I am always on the look out for more ideas on how to cope. I am also aware that some families and friends want to help. I learned that without actually experiencing a flashback, trigger or some other PTSD/CPTSD symptom it is hard for them to know what to do. I like what this young…
I am on Facebook and joined two groups that are similar to each other but slightly different. One is Living with CPTSD and the other is Healing from CPTSD. Matt, one of the founders and sometimes administrators, shares some of the most awesome stuff. I like sharing but I also respect copywrite laws. I am…
Many times I heard people tell me I needed to get out of my comfort zone. I was puzzled and confused, what comfort zone? I woke up stressed, I lived stress, and I went to sleep stressed to be greeted by nightmares, I didn’t believe there was such thing as a comfort zone. Then I…
The human body is amazing. However, the amazing body over reacts with long term trauma. Lilly Hope Lucario calls this Body armoring. https://themighty.com/2017/08/life-impacting-symptoms-of-complex-post-traumatic-stress-disorder-ptsd/ Your body never relaxes. Always prepared for the next assault, hence, my body gets tired and sore from all the tension. Ever noticed that your shoulders are up around your ears or…
I measured my children’s growth on a height growth chart noting milestones and progress. Now I have a growth chart. Thanks to Matt for sharing another awesome diagram. Now for me the interesting thing was I needed to find my comfort zone. I didn’t think I had one. Years of counseling helped me to recognize…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 