Change apologies to thank yous

I ran across two of these memes so I posted both of them.  Not sure which came out first.  Before counseling, I apologized all the time, even when things were not my fault at all.  I felt like anything unpleasant was my fault.  If I just did better, prepared better, been better the problem would…

Inner Critic

One of the more common topics of discussion on several PTSD/CPTSD web pages and posts is about the Inner Critic.  That little voice in your head that keep pointing out and dwelling on every mistake ever made by that person. Someone on Facebook posted this image about criticism…     This is what I do…

Baby-steps

First of the year we are bombarded with meme’s to set goals, make resolutions, embrace the change and get moving.  For many years I hung my head in shame and gave up on January 2, because I was going to break those resolutions anyway, may as well get it over with as quickly as possible. …

Mile in my shoes

Before judging me and my choices, walk a mile in my shoes…..then you are a mile away and I can’t hear you.   Too often it is comments and words and ‘well meaning’ advice that can really hurt.  Instead of expecting other people to watch what they say, I am working on a list of…

Took a break

I took a break from my blogs…how do I feel about it?  This is a research/information/encouragement blog.  I keep studying and finding more things to help myself and hopefully others.  It grew well past my original plans.  I discovered in taking a break I did less research.  I didn’t keep up with other people’s blogs…

Stand up for yourself

To that nasty voice in your head.  Fire your mean boss.  The one that expects perfection the first time.  Expects you to work harder, longer, and more committed than any one else.  That boss in the mirror that criticizes your every move and points out every mistake.  One of the things that I appreciate about…