Can-Can List

Listened to a speaker share the idea of one lady facing massive health problems.  She created a Can-Can list….I can breathe, I can smile, I can……. You get the drift.  Too often with PTSD, long term health problems, or disabilities we sometimes focus so much on what we can’t do we neglect to open ourselves…

Rules of healing

Every person heals at their own rate and in their own way.  However, I learned from reading many blogs, books, and articles that there are a few basic rules that show up on a regular basis. Rule #1 Stop lying, especially to yourself.  This is difficult to look at your own life without excuses or…

A New Beginning

Each year, every person has an opportunity to begin again.  What will I bring with me into the new year?  What will I have the courage to leave behind? So many people with PTSD want another chance at living a ‘normal’ life.  So many are disappointed to find out that ‘normal’ doesn’t exist.  My counselor…

Affirmations

Many besides Pavelka use affirmations as part of their toolbox of things to do to help cope with life.  I take a dim view of them since my mother used an affirmation that she taught her students but she didn’t really believe what she said.  I get the concept but I saw a negative example. …

Train to use the tools

Train to use the tools in your toolbox.  I started with practicing with my counselor.  Then I practiced on a person that was truly out to get me fired.  If the experiment went badly I didn’t worry because I wasn’t building a relationship, I was learning to protect myself from those that wish to do…

Magic Words

I am continuing my take on each one of Pavelka’s Toolbox.  Today’s post is about the magic words.  Yup, old fashion but still powerful and healing. Please Thank You I’m sorry I don’t know Please and Thank you go along way to smooth many situations.  However, I learned that extreme pleading and over the top…

The Law of Attraction

Thorn in my side….. Stated by Pavelka, “…is absolute. What you think about, you bring about. If you focus on the bad, more bad will come, but if you focus on how you want things to be and you believe and picture it as though it is already here, it will turn up.” This to…