One of the things pounded into abuse victims is they are not worth caring for or even getting the basics like enough food, proper clothing, or bathroom breaks. Conditioning trains them to view self-care as selfish and how dare they not meet the needs of the abuser first. Then comes a change and the victim…
I am working through definitions of the different types of abuses. I saved emotional abuse for last since to me it is the beginning to all the other abuses. Without emotional abuse the other abuses would not happen. The first step or the beginning of abuse is to view the child as less than human. …
Hi All, My friend’s blog reposted this very important tips for being around helper dogs. This applies to PTSD dogs too. Please, let the owner be aware you are there and follow instructions on how to treat the dog. These are working dogs with a very important task and distractions can cause discomfort for both…
I like to do meme busters but I also recognize when a meme hits a hard truth and puts into words what I did not want to say. Someone posted that this was obvious but for me before counseling it wasn’t You don’t need to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Actually…
One of the struggles of CPTSD and PTSD is Black and White thinking. Bad is BAD and Good is good and nothing in between. There is no such thing as sort of right. Perfectionism or else and you don’t want to know what ‘or else’ is going to be. My counselor spent many sessions trying…
Awareness is rising that suicide is 100% preventable but how we go about doing that is not 100% successful. The meme brought up in this article says, “Suicide doesn’t stop the pain; it passes it on to somebody else.” Read the article for their perspective I’m going to share what I think about this phrase.…
There is no cure for suicide – Prevention is the key. Remember that I share information but if you are in crisis please, call the help line. You know your situation best. Make the call and start down the rode to healing. Someone special to me loss a friend to suicide. She shared this link…
Years ago I listened to Dr. Murray Banks talk about Mental Hygiene. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=VyOl0-qbDSU He shared that mental illness is not heredity. The thing you may get is pretty peculiar parents which can precipitate using insanity as a means of survival. Finally most states recognize that addict parents are a challenge for a child. I am…
Late at night, I know I should be trying to sleep and I am watching a rerun of NCIS. It is the episode that Gibbs persuades Timothy that after an ordeal he should seek counseling. The counselor listens to Timothy’s concerns then states, “Worry is a bully.” It was like a huge light bulb moment. …
How many of us feel tied to our jobs, families, past or other anchors or bricks in our lives? The United States declared their Independence from England. Unheard of. How strange! England ruled the World…..the sun never set on their Empire. The Upstarts that wrote out and established their Independence changed the World in a…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 