Survivors rarely self-care

One of the things pounded into abuse victims is they are not worth caring for or even getting the basics like enough food, proper clothing, or bathroom breaks.  Conditioning trains them to view self-care as selfish and how dare they not meet the needs of the abuser first.  Then comes a change and the victim…

The beginning of abuse

I am working through definitions of the different types of abuses.  I saved emotional abuse for last since to me it is the beginning to all the other abuses.  Without emotional abuse the other abuses would not happen.  The first step or the beginning of abuse is to view the child as less than human. …

Not always obvious

I like to do meme busters but I also recognize when a meme hits a hard truth and puts into words what I did not want to say.  Someone posted that this was obvious but for me before counseling it wasn’t You don’t need to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Actually…

Continuum

One of the struggles of CPTSD and PTSD is Black and White thinking.  Bad is BAD and Good is good and nothing in between.  There is no such thing as sort of right.  Perfectionism or else and you don’t want to know what ‘or else’ is going to be.  My counselor spent many sessions trying…

Meme Buster

Awareness is rising that suicide is 100% preventable but how we go about doing that is not 100% successful. The meme brought up in this article says, “Suicide doesn’t stop the pain; it passes it on to somebody else.”  Read the article for their perspective I’m going to share what I think about this phrase.…

Prevention when there is no cure

There is no cure for suicide – Prevention is the key. Remember that I share information but if you are in crisis please, call the help line.  You know your situation best.  Make the call and start down the rode to healing. Someone special to me loss a friend to suicide.  She shared this link…