Self-care vs Selfish

***********Trigger warning*************  written specifically for those with a strong Christian background.   I was taught methodically and purposefully to neglect myself, to serve others, and self-care was being selfish.  Lies upon lies.  Martyrs come in all shapes and sizes.  Putting a cause, others, and anything else before yourself is foolish at best and down right…

Change hyper-vigilance

To something deeper, discernment. I follow Lilly Hope Lucario on Healing From Complex Trauma & PTSD/CPTSD A journey to healing from complex trauma.  The article I read is about turning hyper-vigilance into discernment. This is her link:  https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2016/09/11/turning-hypervigilance-into-discernment-is-healing-lilly-hope-lucario/ For many people this is a sticky area because discernment has to do with judgement. http://www.thefreedictionary.com/discernment dis·cern·ment (dĭ-sûrn′mənt)…

Things to say

Friends and family sometimes don’t know what to say when I am having a bad day.  When I am having a bad day, it is difficult for me to communicate what I need.  My counselor had a talent for saying just the right thing at the right moment.  He also had a PhD and 30…

CPTSD

I was diagnosed with PTSD with dissociation at an extreme level over 12 years ago.  During that time PTSD was gaining recognition as being more than a soldier’s terror.  Sadly, this caused conflict and confusion.  Some soldiers thought that those not serving in the war didn’t have the ‘right’ to talk about their pain and…

The Music Didn’t End

I follow several PTSD groups on Facebook.  Many of the posts are filled with dread of a future that ended with PTSD….I love the link they posted of the violinist Itzhaik Perlman.  He portrays the attitude I believe in or as Dory put it, “Just Keep Swimming.” (Finding Nemo.) I believe this is the best…

Impact

*********Trigger Warning***********   I admire Lilly Hope Lucario.  Her blog is specifically for those that are survivors of sexual abuse.  I appreciate her sharing her ideas about surviving child sexual abuse.  I read one of her articles recently – Please be prepared for a tough read.  If you are not in a place ready to openly…

Shared Quotes

People in a PTSD group shared their favorite quotes that keep them going.  What is your favorite quote? The harsher the winters, the more sweet will be the summers …just keep swimming- Dori from finding Nemo 😉 The great man is he who in the midst of a crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence…