A New Beginning

Each year, every person has an opportunity to begin again.  What will I bring with me into the new year?  What will I have the courage to leave behind? So many people with PTSD want another chance at living a ‘normal’ life.  So many are disappointed to find out that ‘normal’ doesn’t exist.  My counselor…

Affirmations

Many besides Pavelka use affirmations as part of their toolbox of things to do to help cope with life.  I take a dim view of them since my mother used an affirmation that she taught her students but she didn’t really believe what she said.  I get the concept but I saw a negative example. …

Train to use the tools

Train to use the tools in your toolbox.  I started with practicing with my counselor.  Then I practiced on a person that was truly out to get me fired.  If the experiment went badly I didn’t worry because I wasn’t building a relationship, I was learning to protect myself from those that wish to do…

Toxic People

I heard of toxic people and I thought criminals….not so.  Hardest thing about counseling was learning that some of the most toxic people I know are in my own family.  If I am not very careful, I am a toxic person… very depressing. Pavelka Health Revolution Do you have people in your life who are…

Prepare for Family visits

I posted on my other blog several suggestions to prepare to visit family or have them visit you.  Check out the link for more links and ideas….. http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2013/12/preparing-to-be-with-family.html This is the post: http://inbadcompanyinc.wordpress.com/2013/12/18/packing-light TR wrote a wonderful post with ideas on things to pack for family visits.  Whether overnight or a few hours advance preparation…

Negative Tape

My counselor commented that the things I say to myself are some of the worse things I’ve ever heard all compacted onto one short ugly tape, played every time I make a human mistake.  He pointed out that I would never say to someone else what I say to myself…. In Pavelka’s toolbox he called…