I ran across two of these memes so I posted both of them. Not sure which came out first. Before counseling, I apologized all the time, even when things were not my fault at all. I felt like anything unpleasant was my fault. If I just did better, prepared better, been better the problem would…
On my other blog I wrote about envy. http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2019/07/envy.html The antidote of envy is gratitude. If something is offered and I grudgingly take it, I do not feel it is the gift it is meant to be. Seriously, without gratitude nothing feels like a gift. With gratitude, every day feels like a gift. With gratitude…
An integral part of healing. Gratitude helps me see the good things in a day. Gratitude helps me see the good in me. I started counting blessings. Lots of them. I did the blessing a day for a month and barely scratched the surface. Then someone pointed out that counting blessings was putting a limit…
These past months heart break touched our family. Our little granddaughter came to stay on Earth for less than an hour. I sometimes wish that the old traditions of being allowed to mourn for a year was still in practice. This is what I am learning. Today’s culture of everyone must be happy is destroying…
I quit sewing costumes for plays years ago because they get so crazy with fittings, alterations, sewing, and planning… sounds like reverse order but that is how crazy plays can get. I volunteered to help with a Christmas musical at church thinking it would have at the most a dozen parts. Oops. A cast of…
Field trip at school gave me the opportunity to listen to Anne Grady, the keynote speaker. She is funny, real and gets it. I bought both her books and she signed them. 🙂 First book is Strong Enough- Choosing Courage, Resilience and Triumph. The second book is 52 strategies for Live, Love, & Work. One…
End of the school year is always hectic and busy. Big events occur with a few extras thrown in. Fashion show is this week, culmination of months of work. Sick teacher had me subbing today…always wearing for me. Relief of a major burden leaves energy and room in my life for things I love. I…
Abusers manipulate people through ‘gift giving’ with the expectation that their target should be grateful for getting a Trojan Horse. https://www.britannica.com/topic/Trojan-horse A victim of such gifts are sometimes viewed as ungrateful from 3rd parties that do not understand the danger of such ‘gifts.’ When is a gift not a gift? First what a gift is…
“I have an attitude and I know how to use it.” Seems contradictory. One of the many things I learned in counseling is the Art of Gratitude. Like many life skills, gratitude is a skill that needs to be taught. Receiving a gift, a compliment, or some good deed may be difficult for someone with…
I am continuing my take on each one of Pavelka’s Toolbox. Today’s post is about the magic words. Yup, old fashion but still powerful and healing. Please Thank You I’m sorry I don’t know Please and Thank you go along way to smooth many situations. However, I learned that extreme pleading and over the top…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 