Quarantine was a natural boundary. No one comes in and no one goes out. Boring but predictable. Things are opening up some places but with a new restriction or boundary. You have to wear a mask. NOT going well with that one. Someone chided me that it is just a piece of fabric. Yes, a…
Reviewing my possible posts idea I came across yet another one talking about boundaries. The reason I keep coming back to boundaries is that many survivors with PTSD/CPTSD or just really odd coping skills show a definite lack of boundaries. I struggled with the concept. Listening to others talk about having boundaries and feeling so…
Every time I get on the freeway my enhanced hyper-vigilance is rewarded. I am super aware of cars changing lanes, speed demons racing up from behind and near misses that keeps my hyper-vigilance on alert. It is exhausting being super aware all the time of every person around. I didn’t know it was unusual. I…
I dropped into holiday survival mode and stopped my course of study with Blueknot….several of the areas cover details of how long and how much therapy is needed for CPTSD/PTSD. Mine was 10 years and 3 counselors. I am still a work in progress. I’m fortunate that my first counselor focused on teaching me the…
Trauma happens in life. Full stop. But not everyone gets PTSD. Even fewer do what I did which was to create an elaborate survival technique using dissociation to divide up my life in smaller pieces. Life got a lot more confusing when I married and moved away from home, stopped going to school and started…
All over people are celebrating the blessings of mothers and motherhood. Sadly, it is not a day of celebration for many. Heart break when you can’t have children. Heart break when a baby doesn’t live. Heart break of a still born child or miscarriage. Heart break of losing a mother to drugs, alcohol or death. …
A complete sentence. My counselor worked with me over and over and over and over, no, I didn’t get it until he had me practice repeatedly. I kept giving huge humongous explanations as to why I was saying no….or more likely I didn’t say no, I attempted the impossible and failed, a lot. Which brings…
Every so often when I am planning a post, more perspectives come to my attention. I am continuing addressing the different ways that are obvious and not so obvious self-care issues from CPTSD/PTSD. This is the link to the original article: https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Today’s discussion is from #6 To stop always saying “sorry” (for nothing) and…
Canada’s Thanksgiving day already happened. In the United States we are coming up on the Holiday blitz – Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas, New Years followed by Valentine’s day. After my third year in counseling, my therapist pointed out how I wiped out each Holiday season. Well I am consistent in something. I learned to plan ahead…
***********Trigger warning************* written specifically for those with a strong Christian background. I was taught methodically and purposefully to neglect myself, to serve others, and self-care was being selfish. Lies upon lies. Martyrs come in all shapes and sizes. Putting a cause, others, and anything else before yourself is foolish at best and down right…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 