5 years

I started this blog 5 years ago.  There was very little online that wasn’t directed to the military with PTSD.  CPTSD wasn’t mentioned yet.  I wanted there to be a voice for those with no memory of before trauma.  I wanted to say, there is life after trauma.  I want to get out to anyone…

Growth Chart

I measured my children’s growth on a height growth chart noting milestones and progress.  Now I have a growth chart.  Thanks to Matt for sharing another awesome diagram.  Now for me the interesting thing was I needed to find my comfort zone.  I didn’t think I had one.  Years of counseling helped me to recognize…

Taking back Joy

Not sure how to start this post.  I looked up my original wording and the connotation is totally different from what I meant.  I’ll try starting at the beginning. Caution – deep difficult subject. My mother raised me in a fear based living system.  Everything I did was geared to avoid being hit or berated. …

Worry is a Bully

Late at night, I know I should be trying to sleep and I am watching a rerun of NCIS.  It is the episode that Gibbs persuades Timothy that after an ordeal he should seek counseling.  The counselor listens to Timothy’s concerns then states, “Worry is a bully.”  It was like a huge light bulb moment. …

Resilience Myths

I get access to several computer blogs about education since I work at a high school.  I follow and keep track of trends and information about PTSD/CPTSD.  One of the subjects I am studying is resilience.  This article by By Elena Aguilar tackles 4 myths that people believe about resilience of a teacher.  Follow the…

Changed my lens

I was asked a question I am struggling with how to write the answer, “What would you like therapists to know?” The first counselor I worked with was so extraordinary I had a hard time saying anything.  He understood me in ways that I didn’t understand about myself.  He led me to answers, allowing me…