Are you filling your bucket?

I read the book How Full is your Bucket?  http://www.amazon.com/s/ref=nb_sb_noss_2?url=search-alias%3Dstripbooks&field-keywords=how+full+is+your+bucket Others picked up on the idea of filling your own personal bucket by filling other people’s bucket. Recently on Facebook I came across a link on how to fill children’s buckets.  http://www.bucketfillers101.com/bucket-lessons.php The most important thing I learned is I do more damage to my…

Medical exams

I found an article on the PTSD page the shares studies that verify that survivors of sexual trauma seek mediacal care more often than those that are not traumatized.  I figure I could have told them that for free. I persevered through the article.  Toward the bottom is a list of things a medical provider…

Bracing myself for May

Every year I brace myself for May…well actually Mother’s Day.  Holidays, special events, specific dates all come loaded with their own set of triggers.  To help ease my distress, I think about how far I have come.  I started counseling 12 years ago.  I worked 7 years with one counselor, 3 with another and one…

Acceptance of self

Emerging From Broken It was when I finally refused to pretend that everything was okay and I validated that what happened to me was wrong NO MATTER if I was believed or not, no matter if I was disapproved of or not, that was when I recovered. I validated me, I listened to me, I…

Behind

“The hurrier i go, the behinder i get.”   From a poster on my wall from high school… I find links and save them for future posts after I read them.  I learned the hard way, several times, that some authors will start out sounding terrific then slip in something that doesn’t set well with…

Admitting defeat

Last month I experienced a person taking advantage to me because of my not understanding how things were done at school.  A month later, I knew I would encounter the same person.  I decided to write an email to try to repair the problem.  It didn’t work.  I went to my supervisor and explained what…

Physical symptoms do exist

  Emerging From Broken “Physical symptoms such as muscle tension, back problems, stomach distress, constipation, diarrhea, headaches, obesity or maybe even hypertension can be caused by suppressing your emotions. Suppressed anger may also cause you to overreact to people and situations or to act inappropriately. Unexpressed anger can cause you to become irritable, irrational, and…

Play the cards you got

  Awareness of childhood sexual abuse “You don’t have a right to the cards you believe you should have been dealt. You have an obligation to play the hell out of the cards you’re holding.” ~ Cheryl Strayed My experience for the last two months was to fulfill one of my “what ifs.”  What if…

Smashing things all together

My counselor lectured me often (read that as at least once or twice a month for 7 years) about lumping/smashing/tangling things all together.  He taught me to pull apart problems and separate them into parts.  For example, I would complain about some event at work.  He would help me sort through what was knee-jerk reaction…