Before I started counseling I learned that to change your actions you need to change your thoughts. I intellectually got it but something seemed missing. I didn’t realize the thing missing was my own connection to my emotions. Counseling shed light into the dark parts of my mind and helped me start to connect my…
Change your life is not new. I posted about it before. What I am sharing today is a link for things specific to this pandemic experience. Mindset Shift During a Pandemic
Such an awesome word. Sounds something odd and weird. In a sense, it is. It is our brains ability to change. Scientist are learning that PTSD and CPTSD are forms of brain injuries. Some people feel doomed by this diagnosis. I felt relieved to have a name for my pain. It was no longer a…
I found a poster on Facebook and I am linking back to where it came from. https://www.facebook.com/messageoflife1808/ People pleasing is a survival technique also called fawning. This is another way of describing laying down and letting yourself be a doormat. No one appreciates a doormat, they just wipe their feet and move on. Change…
Needs shiny armor and white horse. Feeling helpless as a child I wanted someone to rescue me. That same theme is echoed in many childhood stories of someone swooping in and saving the day – EVERYDAY. The Lone Ranger, Mighty Mouse, The Prince in Cinderella and Snow White, Lassie, all continue this theme of someone…
Is there a difference? Some people treat all shame as if it is toxic shame. I tried multiple times to read a book on shame. I was so confused within a few pages at it batted back and forth between shame and toxic shame. Dictionary result for shame – Google dictionary /SHām/ noun 1. a…
Psychologist have their own language that they use to communicate with each other and without a great deal of study leave their client kind of in the dark as to what is going on. https://www.blueknot.org.au/Workers-Practitioners/For-Health-Professionals/Resources-for-Health-Professionals/Best-Practice-Guidelines 11. Ensure the therapeutic model/approach promotes integration of functioning, and contains the `core elements’ consistent with research findings in the neurobiology…
Shame came up fairly early in my counseling. I was given a book about shame and tried to explain that there was shame and toxic shame only there isn’t a different name for toxic shame so there is shame that is good for you and shame that is bad for you but no wait maybe…
The morning of 9/11 I remember exactly where I was. I worked in a computer lab. With in minutes after the first plane hit their target, there were scenes of the disaster on every computer. All work ground to a halt. I looked at the carnage over and over from every conceivable angle. Pentagon, Philadelphia,…
Too often another stumbling block to healing is the mind-set, “Fix me, please.” Too many clients walk into a counseling room expecting/pleading for the counselor to fix them. My counselor did not let me keep that delusion for very long. He informed me under no uncertain terms that I had a lot of work to…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 