Mega Trigger for me

I struggled with reading as a child.  I also had a really lousy teacher and almost every student in that class had a major set back.  Trauma in the classroom makes it hard to learn.  In high school, I changed it all.  I worked hard taking difficult classes and graduated in the top 5% of…

Different Facets

Of the same problem….Trust. 14. “I avoid asking help from anyone because I don’t trust anyone. I believe if someone offers me a hand, there will always be something they [want to] ask in return. I have friends but I don’t have a best friend. I keep my distance from people. Automatically, my wall blocks…

Always messing up

I feel like these two go hand-in-hand.  Rarely do you see one without the other.  Abusers do their fair share of convincing their victims all bad things are the victims fault.  A steady diet of blame the victim eventually the victim believes they are the ones that are the problem.   4. “I always feel…

What is Cognitive dissonance?

I wrestled with cognitive dissonance but I didn’t know what it was or why it was sooooo uncomfortable.  In counseling, I encountered extreme cognitive dissonance when my counselor tried to convince me I was a good person.  Most people believe they are a good person.  From the time I was small I was told repeatedly…

Body memories

  Awareness of childhood sexual abuse “We only believe those thoughts which have been conceived not in the brain but in the whole body” – W.B. Yeats * The process triggered by working with the brain and the body in conjunction deepen cognitive development significantly in the areas of evaluating, analyzing, applying and remembering *…

Survival requires change

So does thriving. I am fascinated when two articles come together about the same time totally unconnected as to how I got them.  Facebook for one and an email for the other.  I am recognizing in myself a need for more change.  I equate my experience in counseling as doing something similar to changing my…