What works for you?

Others on Facebook are posting that they are feeling trapped with this “Stay at home” to avoid getting sick.  I posted about changing wording.  I call this time to regenerate and try to learn Spanish during my work hours.  Tomorrow I find out if they have something else for me to do.  My less supportive…

Living in fear

Living is fear is not new to me.  My counselor pointed out I lived a fear based life.  My childhood revolved around jumping through ever changing hoops to avoid some punishment.  Then there were the weirdness of some punishments I preferred.  If I complained about eating a meal with bell pepper in it, I would…

Skills to learn

Early in my counseling my therapist bluntly told me I was an emotional moron.  Wow thanks.  But he followed this with the information that I can change this by learning the skills that I didn’t learning as a child.  I totally did not comprehend how much I missed out on growing up.  I didn’t grow…

Another shift

My son-in-law teaches people about how to shift their paradigm….I’ve read along and nodded my head; then it struck me, I need another paradigm shift.  For those not familiar with paradigm, it is the thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that we live by.  Many of these beliefs and behaviors started in childhood.  If you had a…

Can’t Make Him Happy

I belong to 2 CPTSD/PTSD groups on Facebook.  I don’t remember which one posted the question but a woman asked how she could help her little girl be happy again because they were going on a mother/daughter trip and the daddy said he would be sad while they were gone.  The little tender hearted girl…

Change your Focus

I was miserable last night.  We went with our grandkids to a carnival with flashing lights, loud music and junk food.  The kids enjoyed themselves immensely.  I asked my daughter with TBI how she was coping with all that was going on.  She pointed out her baseball type hat that shielded her eyes from most…