Hiding the ‘Dark Side’

*******Warning discussion of suicide*******     I learned that I couldn’t continue watching the Star Wars series when they showed how Darth Vader came to be.  If it feels too real, it is not entertainment. 17. “[I] won’t let anyone see the ‘bad’ side of myself.” https://themighty.com/2017/06/childhood-emotional-abuse-adult-habits/ I don’t want people to see the residual…

Decisions decisions

I felt like a complete dweeb when I started college.  My parents made all my major decisions for me including what to study in college, where I went to college, and basically what I wore to college.  Yup, I was controlled that completely.  Teenagers don’t magically turn into decision making adults without making their own…

Survival requires change

So does thriving. I am fascinated when two articles come together about the same time totally unconnected as to how I got them.  Facebook for one and an email for the other.  I am recognizing in myself a need for more change.  I equate my experience in counseling as doing something similar to changing my…

The other 1%

Yesterday I wrote that “Radical changes fail about 99% of the time for me.” Then there is the other 1%.  Radical changes happen.  One of my radical changes was switching from computer engineering to photography degree in college.  I had enough hours to graduate with a degree and a half because many of my engineering…

Power of Nudge

Radical changes fail about 99% of the time for me.  My counselor taught me the power of nudge.  If you watch motivational speeches you may listen to the difference between good and great is one degree.  The difference between hot water and boiling water is one degree.  Look through several of the videos and recognized…

Rules of healing

Every person heals at their own rate and in their own way.  However, I learned from reading many blogs, books, and articles that there are a few basic rules that show up on a regular basis. Rule #1 Stop lying, especially to yourself.  This is difficult to look at your own life without excuses or…