Interview your Therapist

I’ve mentioned before that before starting with a new counselor it is important to interview them just like any other person you would hire for a job.  I decided not to go with one counselor after the second visit because it was so obvious by her actions that she knew very little about working with…

Third week

I’m in my third week of school and I feel like I am 2 weeks behind.  I’m doing homework for school at home.  I’m staying a little late each day just trying to tread water.  I’m not gaining ground.  So what do I need to do to reprioritize my choices so that I am at…

Continuum

One of the struggles of CPTSD and PTSD is Black and White thinking.  Bad is BAD and Good is good and nothing in between.  There is no such thing as sort of right.  Perfectionism or else and you don’t want to know what ‘or else’ is going to be.  My counselor spent many sessions trying…

Worry is a Bully

Late at night, I know I should be trying to sleep and I am watching a rerun of NCIS.  It is the episode that Gibbs persuades Timothy that after an ordeal he should seek counseling.  The counselor listens to Timothy’s concerns then states, “Worry is a bully.”  It was like a huge light bulb moment. …

Independence a State of Mind

How many of us feel tied to our jobs, families, past or other anchors or bricks in our lives?  The United States declared their Independence from England.  Unheard of.  How strange!  England ruled the World…..the sun never set on their Empire.  The Upstarts that wrote out and established their Independence changed the World in a…

Live like you’ll die tomorrow

Is the worse advice.  They imply that you should live each day to the fullest because tomorrow you might die.  Perhaps.  Too many take this advice then they don’t die and have no plans for their own future.  When I was 16 I didn’t believe I would live to see 18.  I lived moment by…