Another list

I am always looking for more and better ways to cope with symptoms of PTSD/CPTSD.  (Reminder, I was diagnosed with PTSD before Complex PTSD became an accepted term so I usually refer to PTSD.) I follow two PTSD groups on Facebook.  I don’t remember which one shared this but it was an interesting list of…

You’re too normal

Sometimes when I talk about having PTSD the response I get is “You’re too normal.”  First off, normal is a setting on a drier.  Yes, I am high functioning because I worked hard at it.  People seeing me now don’t know about the 3 years in bed, the 7 years towards recovery layered on with…

Survivors rarely self-care

One of the things pounded into abuse victims is they are not worth caring for or even getting the basics like enough food, proper clothing, or bathroom breaks.  Conditioning trains them to view self-care as selfish and how dare they not meet the needs of the abuser first.  Then comes a change and the victim…

The beginning of abuse

I am working through definitions of the different types of abuses.  I saved emotional abuse for last since to me it is the beginning to all the other abuses.  Without emotional abuse the other abuses would not happen.  The first step or the beginning of abuse is to view the child as less than human. …

Not always obvious

I like to do meme busters but I also recognize when a meme hits a hard truth and puts into words what I did not want to say.  Someone posted that this was obvious but for me before counseling it wasn’t You don’t need to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Actually…

Continuum

One of the struggles of CPTSD and PTSD is Black and White thinking.  Bad is BAD and Good is good and nothing in between.  There is no such thing as sort of right.  Perfectionism or else and you don’t want to know what ‘or else’ is going to be.  My counselor spent many sessions trying…