Stand up for yourself

To that nasty voice in your head.  Fire your mean boss.  The one that expects perfection the first time.  Expects you to work harder, longer, and more committed than any one else.  That boss in the mirror that criticizes your every move and points out every mistake.  One of the things that I appreciate about…

Attachment Issues

Do people that were abused have attachment issues?  The question really needs a sarcasm font.  The first person that a baby gains attachment to is the first caregiver.  If the caregiver is the one that abuses, neglects and harm that relationship, what does the baby connect to?  Sometimes no one. In the list of best…

Being a hero

Can be detrimental to your health and relationships.  I mentioned in my last post about Rescuer’s High. This is the feeling you get when you come in and fix everything for someone else.  The rush of feeling like a hero even if the solution was detrimental to the person being rescued. I didn’t understand the…

What is support?

I am moving slowly through this list of best practices from the perspective of the therapist.  I’m trying to add in my perspective as a client.  Hopefully, it comes off as helpful and not confusing.  I know that with the hundreds of conversations I had with my counselor there were several times that he understood…

How to say it?

I am going through a list of best practices for therapist with CPTSD/PTSD clients.  I am stuck on number 5. https://www.blueknot.org.au/Workers-Practitioners/For-Health-Professionals/Resources-for-Health-Professionals/Best-Practice-Guidelines It is cloaked in Psycho-babble terms but boils down to the therapist needs to kindly tell the client they are brain damaged….awesome.  There is no easy way to put this. Really.  I thought for days. …

Adaptions not symptoms

One of the powerful things taught to me by my first counselor that my ‘symptoms’ of PTSD were actually life adaptions that worked for me at the time of trauma.  Of course, the issue was that they were maladaptive for living a more settled life.  In the list of best practices, one of the concepts…