I am rebuilding my health after a rough beginning to 2017. A fast trip to Kentucky followed by horrible allergies, finished off with a car wreck that was not my fault but left me with spectacular bruising and a sore neck. The bruising is fading but still tender to the touch. Sneezing is painful. I…
One of the confusing things that my counselor spent many hours trying to help me understand was I needed to fire my mean boss. That mean boss that expects me to arrive early and leave late. The one that doesn’t allow any sick time. Punishes me for not doing enough. Rages at me for the…
I get articles about PTSD and depression…Every so often one of the articles tells me how I feel and why. Don’t just don’t. This particular article was about depression and stated why I feel depressed. The article did share one of the causes of depression but it is not my cause for depression. Over years…
One of the many cognitive dissonance moments was learning about the amygdala. That pesky part of the brain that sees a T-Rex instead of a barking dog. The amygdala kicks in when danger is perceived….unfortunately, long term abuse leaves me seeing danger everywhere. Examples a black cat is a pouncing panther, a test precedes a…
Judy, my sister, debunked one of the memes on her blog….https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/05/22/meme-debunking-20/ A lack of boundaries often invites a lack of respect. No. Just no. Bad choice of verb. A lack of boundaries does NOT INVITE a lack of respect. A lack of boundaries usually means that boundaries were NOT RESPECTED in the first place. My version would…
Today I had an excellent example of cognitive dissonance. A friend of my mother’s made the mistake of complaining to my husband about my mother not being brought home. (My mother is currently in a care center for dementia.) DH told her he was sick and tired of my mother emotionally abusing me and yelling…
The past 3 days I spoke to high school classes where I work about PTSD and coping skills. Fashion I discussed the dark side of fashion…anorexia, eating disorders, plastic surgery addiction, and other out of control behaviors trying to compete in a high stress, slave labor industry. I shared the coping skills I list here. …
I maintain two different blogs. One is my personal journey out of the darkness of abuse survival. The second is this one about PTSD. Every so often I write a post that fits both places. Today is one of those posts. http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2017/05/crap-happens.html Today I talked to the fashion students. I explained why I didn’t go…
I believe people learn differently. I found a visual way that demonstrates cognitive dissonance. Yes, I used my mouse to follow the rings.
This post is mostly for those with CPTSD. Complex PTSD often, but not always, steeped in childhood abuse. Sadly, one of the worst abusers can be your own mother. Even more confusing is when that mother is sweet and wonderful to everyone except their targeted child. Becomes even more confusing when some of the children…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 