What to do with anger?

My counselor taught me that anger is a secondary emotion, hurt, fear, and frustration come first. If your therapist is willing let them walk you through pealing back the anger to explore the hurt you have felt, the fear generated from your experiences, and frustration that people don’t change. Another part of the package is…

Reminder to myself

I deleted a comment from a person that was angry with me over a post that did not meet his need to feel validated.  I feel sad that he is hurting so much.  It is a reminder to myself that not everyone is in the same place when they read my blog.  I’ve been writing…

Self-care vs Selfish

***********Trigger warning*************  written specifically for those with a strong Christian background.   I was taught methodically and purposefully to neglect myself, to serve others, and self-care was being selfish.  Lies upon lies.  Martyrs come in all shapes and sizes.  Putting a cause, others, and anything else before yourself is foolish at best and down right…

Depression and childhood

I struggle with the fact that I suffer the consequences of another persons mistakes and evil choices.  I get depressed thinking about what a mess my childhood was, most of my life I couldn’t even remember it.   21. “I have major issues with anxiety and depression because of my childhood. The biggest factor is…

Black hole survival

    The Black Hole/Pit is like quicksand. The more you struggle, the worse it gets. The key is to “float”. Clear your mind and relax your body by learning and practicing Mindfulness. Concentrate on your breathing and body sensations. Allow your feelings to “pass through you and around you” without judgement, without reaction. This…