Woes of People Pleasing

I’m combining these next two things that I did.  This was a monster hurdle because everyone loves someone that does everything for them, right?  Yup, lots of rewards but sometimes at a terrible cost.  The cost of myself, my relationships, my dreams, my needs didn’t exist. 12. “I feel the need to please everybody I…

Always messing up

I feel like these two go hand-in-hand.  Rarely do you see one without the other.  Abusers do their fair share of convincing their victims all bad things are the victims fault.  A steady diet of blame the victim eventually the victim believes they are the ones that are the problem.   4. “I always feel…

KISS it

This works for anyone in any situation Keep It Simple Sweety. (The original used the word Stupid.)   The it being any activity or job.  I possess a talent for making my life more complicated.  One of the advantages of an art degree is required art history classes that give you a new perspective.  Minimalist…

Assertive vs Aggressive

Is it possible to be assertive in a life and death situation?  I don’t think so because assertive implies that the person you are talking to is not a homicidal death threat.  People that experience PTSD lived in a life and death situation at some point in their life.  Kind of a prerequisite symptom is…