Interview your Therapist

I’ve mentioned before that before starting with a new counselor it is important to interview them just like any other person you would hire for a job.  I decided not to go with one counselor after the second visit because it was so obvious by her actions that she knew very little about working with…

Draining the Lake

I entered counseling with the idea of getting marriage counseling.  After years of raising kids I felt like there was this stranger in my house that I was married to.  I was in for a real shock when after 2 months the counselor explained that my reactions to the homework assignments were not what he…

Third week

I’m in my third week of school and I feel like I am 2 weeks behind.  I’m doing homework for school at home.  I’m staying a little late each day just trying to tread water.  I’m not gaining ground.  So what do I need to do to reprioritize my choices so that I am at…

Respect and Hope

Communicating respect and hope is an on going challenge with an abuse survivor.  https://www.blueknot.org.au/Workers-Practitioners/For-Health-Professionals/Resources-for-Health-Professionals/Best-Practice-Guidelines The problem is getting the client to know what it is.  A long term abuse survivor only knows disrespect and cruelty.  The whole respect thing is like a foreign language.  Also a survivor can spot insincerity in a heart beat.  If…

Another list

I am always looking for more and better ways to cope with symptoms of PTSD/CPTSD.  (Reminder, I was diagnosed with PTSD before Complex PTSD became an accepted term so I usually refer to PTSD.) I follow two PTSD groups on Facebook.  I don’t remember which one shared this but it was an interesting list of…

You’re too normal

Sometimes when I talk about having PTSD the response I get is “You’re too normal.”  First off, normal is a setting on a drier.  Yes, I am high functioning because I worked hard at it.  People seeing me now don’t know about the 3 years in bed, the 7 years towards recovery layered on with…