Interview your Therapist

I’ve mentioned before that before starting with a new counselor it is important to interview them just like any other person you would hire for a job.  I decided not to go with one counselor after the second visit because it was so obvious by her actions that she knew very little about working with…

Draining the Lake

I entered counseling with the idea of getting marriage counseling.  After years of raising kids I felt like there was this stranger in my house that I was married to.  I was in for a real shock when after 2 months the counselor explained that my reactions to the homework assignments were not what he…

Respect and Hope

Communicating respect and hope is an on going challenge with an abuse survivor.  https://www.blueknot.org.au/Workers-Practitioners/For-Health-Professionals/Resources-for-Health-Professionals/Best-Practice-Guidelines The problem is getting the client to know what it is.  A long term abuse survivor only knows disrespect and cruelty.  The whole respect thing is like a foreign language.  Also a survivor can spot insincerity in a heart beat.  If…

Another list

I am always looking for more and better ways to cope with symptoms of PTSD/CPTSD.  (Reminder, I was diagnosed with PTSD before Complex PTSD became an accepted term so I usually refer to PTSD.) I follow two PTSD groups on Facebook.  I don’t remember which one shared this but it was an interesting list of…

Continuum

One of the struggles of CPTSD and PTSD is Black and White thinking.  Bad is BAD and Good is good and nothing in between.  There is no such thing as sort of right.  Perfectionism or else and you don’t want to know what ‘or else’ is going to be.  My counselor spent many sessions trying…

Meme Buster

Awareness is rising that suicide is 100% preventable but how we go about doing that is not 100% successful. The meme brought up in this article says, “Suicide doesn’t stop the pain; it passes it on to somebody else.”  Read the article for their perspective I’m going to share what I think about this phrase.…