What is Cognitive dissonance?

I wrestled with cognitive dissonance but I didn’t know what it was or why it was sooooo uncomfortable.  In counseling, I encountered extreme cognitive dissonance when my counselor tried to convince me I was a good person.  Most people believe they are a good person.  From the time I was small I was told repeatedly…

Teacher Appreciation

“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear”  Buddhist Proverb quotes I remembered this quote and thought of all the times I needed a teacher….I looked for them.  The hardest part was getting myself to the point of being ready to listen.  I believe the teachers are there all the time but I don’t…

Body memories

  Awareness of childhood sexual abuse “We only believe those thoughts which have been conceived not in the brain but in the whole body” – W.B. Yeats * The process triggered by working with the brain and the body in conjunction deepen cognitive development significantly in the areas of evaluating, analyzing, applying and remembering *…

Survival requires change

So does thriving. I am fascinated when two articles come together about the same time totally unconnected as to how I got them.  Facebook for one and an email for the other.  I am recognizing in myself a need for more change.  I equate my experience in counseling as doing something similar to changing my…

Why didn’t I do this years ago?

This is a forever lament for those in the healing process.  Why didn’t I get counseling years ago?  Why didn’t I get away from that abuser years ago?  Why? Why? Why? I found a quote that I believe encapsulates why. “At first people refuse to believe that a strange new thing can be done, then…

Feeling left out

I wanted to write an article with references about PTSD/CPTSD and relationships.  Bless my husband for sticking with me through a rollercoaster of experiences and counseling.  I want to share tips and ideas plus share resources to back up what I am writing.  Frustration is finding articles that don’t talk about before and after trauma. …