What really matters?

I believe in many ways this is the pivotal question that gets distorted in an abuse situation.  What really matters was all about appeasing my abuser to survive one more day.  What really matters was second guessing and jumping through hoops hoping I made it through them fast enough before the boom fell.  Violence and…

Illogical solution

How can I help? When I am totally overwhelmed, it is illogical to serve someone else.  However, one of life’s paradoxes is helping others helps me feel less overwhelmed.  I tested it repeatedly and it works.  It is more fun to do dishes at my kids house than at my own house.  My heart feels…

Sometimes the answer is NO

I put off this question because it is staring me in the face right now….. “Couldn’t we at least…?” This is the question to ask that will enable you to get unstuck, as they say. It’s what enables you to get past disagreement to some consensus, as in couldn’t we at least agree that we…