Sneaky Grief

My counselor did not warn me when he helped me reconnect to emotions that these pesky things are messy, sneaky, inconvenient and down right troublesome.  I am struggling in a morass of emotions of my own making.  But I’ve never been happier, more at peace or better adjusted.  Too many people want to runaway from…

Holidays arrive the same time

Have you ever noticed that the Holiday’s arrive at the same time? The drama remains the same from year to year? The unreasonable expectations also don’t change?  I have several posts about holidays that I reuse over and over because the same stuff happens.  There is some good news.  This year one of my big…

Self Love

“Self love is not selfish. Self love is actually a very selfless contribution to the world. It releases others from the expectation to manage our emotions through their behavior. It frees us to contribute rather than to take. It transforms our relationships from tools for surviving to laboratories for thriving.” @aaronxrose. My therapist worked at…

Invalidation

  Shared with permission, Thank you Poppy. https://scontent-lax3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/72401941_889619328105588_7547656070617890816_o.jpg?_nc_cat=110&_nc_eui2=AeEUFMsiC1JML7R6qzFSpHDHXqV5uAUNYj4Rv6lojvkWWyYtsjStqZsFaf2rfQ_SpwFl6NwAOuMp_AeAw6WBqjArK-rBiXe9j89rXxFCwJ5vLw&_nc_oc=AQkTbPw4FvlIgvzfj4DhQ-ib8xeb-HjVyUNsjD6Ifsbt9iFcWieqtNObllK36MukuO8&_nc_ht=scontent-lax3-1.xx&oh=740a6ab8c06a992189dd52968401e059&oe=5E186A29 Sharing someone else’s work is difficult at best.  Almost impossible in some situations.  On Facebook or Pinterest so many people swap and share without linking back to the original. I think I found the right person for this excellent picture of emotional abuse through invalidation and what…

Finishing

For years, I had great plans and wishes but no energy to finish anything.  I mean I started out great and then life happened and I would bury another half finished project.  Then came counseling, graduating from university, and completing several crocheted projects as in blanket type projects.  I am finishing up another one.  This…

Another shift

My son-in-law teaches people about how to shift their paradigm….I’ve read along and nodded my head; then it struck me, I need another paradigm shift.  For those not familiar with paradigm, it is the thoughts, beliefs, and behaviors that we live by.  Many of these beliefs and behaviors started in childhood.  If you had a…

Change apologies to thank yous

I ran across two of these memes so I posted both of them.  Not sure which came out first.  Before counseling, I apologized all the time, even when things were not my fault at all.  I felt like anything unpleasant was my fault.  If I just did better, prepared better, been better the problem would…