Horton Hatches an Egg

A childhood book laid the ground work for the massive weight of guilt about taking even a moment off from childcare. #14 Taking a day off from childcare without worrying constantly or feeling guilty. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy wrote her perspective https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/11/21/self-care-14-of-25/ She pointed out that bad things did happen while she was a way.  People that…

Multifaceted Challenge

I put off for days writing this post.  How can I write about a problem that I haven’t solved?  My DH pointed out yesterday how painful it is for him to watch me self abuse my body by not eating healthy foods, staying up extremely late, and generallly doing this that are harmful for my…

Are you kidding me?

Please read that title with a ton of sarcasm.  Has anyone made a sarcasm font yet? Self-care #12 Healthy eating and sleeping. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/   Judy’s perspective is here:  https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/11/16/self-care-12-of-25/ I agree with Judy, we both wrote earlier blogs about eating habits or lack of good ones.  Mine is written here:  https://ptsd-acceptingcopingthriving.com/2018/01/17/eat-your-vegetables/ Healthy sleeping, those two…

Here and Now

Here and Now is the ultimate in accepting my past and recognizing my future has not arrived. 11. Being in the present here and now. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy writes her perspective here: https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/11/15/self-care-11-of-25/ Another interesting thing about Here and Now is how often I dreamed of being anywhere but where I was.  My counseling sessions opened…

As Thyself

This is part of the two great commandments given by Christ. Matthew 22:34-40 [34] But when the Pharisees had heard that he had put the Sadducees to silence, they were gathered together. [35] Then one of them, which was a lawyer, asked him a question, tempting him, and saying, [36] Master, which is the great…

Friends like that

Who needs enemies? An idiom that points out how some friends act more like enemies.  Some family members are the worse thing that happen to a child.  Growing up in unhealthy relationships, I didn’t know how to respond to healthy people. Self care concepts continued, #9:  I struggle with making healthy relationship choices. I always…

Do you BELIEVE?

In me…..nope-nope-nope. 8. I struggle with believing in myself. As many times as trusted loved ones have told me I’m beautiful, loving, and smart, I find myself completely unable to believe them. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy’s response to this statement: https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/11/09/self-care-8-of-25/ Even though Judy and I were raised by the same parents are roles in the family…

Eat your Vegetables

Self-care #7loaded with triggers for me. 7. Preparing and eating healthy meals. I know how to, I know I deserve it, I can plan it and even sometimes manage to buy the groceries, but I freeze when it comes to the “doing” which doesn’t even bring me to “the eating”. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy’s perspective is linked…

4 perspectives

Every so often when I am planning a post, more perspectives come to my attention.  I am continuing addressing the different ways that are obvious and not so obvious self-care issues from CPTSD/PTSD.  This is the link to the original article: https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Today’s discussion is from #6 To stop always saying “sorry” (for nothing) and…

All emotions

I lived without emotions for quite a while.  I would file them under the ‘do not disturb box.’  I did this for a good reason.  Growing up in a home where being ’emotional’ was like the worse thing you could do, I stifled my emotions more and more.  Did not help growing up being a…