“Stop complaining,” I heard this when I would speak up about how I was being treated.  Bullies use this injunction to shut up their victims. Dictionary definition for complaint-  http://dictionary.reference.com/browse/complaint?s=t an expression of discontent, regret, pain, censure, resentment, or grief; lament; faultfinding: his complaint about poor schools. Expressing why I am uncomfortable is one of…