Once you understand that you have rights to protect it is time to add Boundaries to the tool box. You can review the page that I have on boundaries. https://ptsd-acceptingcopingthriving.com/coping/boundaries/ These are the books on Boundaries that my counselors suggested: Boundaries by Dr. Henry Cloud & Dr. John Townsend http://store.cloudtownsend.com/boundaries-softcover-book.html http://www.amazon.com/Boundaries-When-Take-Control-Your/dp/0310247454 This book is based…
The next basic tool to go in my toolbox was what rights do I have as a human being? My abusers convinced me I had no rights. I had no right to expect respect, no right to expect to be fed, no right to expect anything….nothing belonged to me and I existed because they allowed…
PTSD follows a life changing event. Not everyone that has a life changing event has PTSD but everyone with PTSD had a life changing event or series events. CPTSD, Complex PTSD, is difficult for some people because there is not one main event but many things that build up to create a dysfunctional way of…
Every student has felt this when they look at their test and their brain refuses to relinquish any information about what they read the night before. Some are short, like when yelling at your own child and you can’t remember their name. Other kind last much longer; childhood, what childhood, I don’t remember any childhood. …
One of my counselors goals was to convince me that I had control over my own life. I was raised with the ‘you must’, ‘I have to’, ‘I can’t’ and other statements indicating that I was turning my life over to someone else to regulate my behavior. One time when I stated that “I had…
Authenticity 1. The quality or condition of being authentic, trustworthy, or genuine. dictionary.search.yahoo.com Ooo boy was this ever a toughy for me. I first had to understand that my whole life was built on lies, half truths, and fear. My counselor held the mirror while I looked at my past. I didn’t remember any of…
I posted this on my other blog: http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2015/03/misbehaving-children.html I felt that it applied here too. Misbehaving children I am doing research to find information about why children misbehave. The interesting thing for me is I don’t think adults are much different. I am learning many things that would have helped if I knew this information…
I wasn’t sure what I would write tonight. Then I checked out Scott Williams blog and his post about books. http://scott-williams.ca/2015/03/07/one-good-book/ He mentioned Jason Bourne. I loved the series. It all started with taking my daughter to the movies. I planned some cute movie, my daughter rolled her eyes and suggested watching Bourne Identity. We…
My counselor left me in no doubt early in my counseling what he thought of my emotional understanding; he called me an emotional moron. At the time, I felt a little put off, today I realized he was being kind. I work at a school that teaches high school students what they need to know…
I spent a few weeks browsing PTSD web sites and Facebook pages. I found I was getting frustrated with what appeared to me a feeling of fatalism coming across the pages. The general tone is “PTSD took everything from me and now I have nothing except nightmares.” The overall tone of hopelessness was depressing. I…
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