Plan in advance

I am always on the look out for more ideas on how to cope.  I am also aware that some families and friends want to help.  I learned that without actually experiencing a flashback, trigger or some other PTSD/CPTSD symptom it is hard for them to know what to do.  I like what this young…

Decisions decisions

I felt like a complete dweeb when I started college.  My parents made all my major decisions for me including what to study in college, where I went to college, and basically what I wore to college.  Yup, I was controlled that completely.  Teenagers don’t magically turn into decision making adults without making their own…

Sharing

The past 3 days I spoke to high school classes where I work about PTSD and coping skills.  Fashion I discussed the dark side of fashion…anorexia, eating disorders, plastic surgery addiction, and other out of control behaviors trying to compete in a high stress, slave labor industry.  I shared the coping skills I list here. …

Coping Skills

I am working on The PTSD Workbook, 2nd edition, Mary Beth Williams, PhD, LCSW, CTS and Soili Poijula, PhD.  In their book, they refer to another book, A Clinical Handbook/Practical Therapist Manual for Assessing and Treating Adults with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (Meichenbaum 1994)  the authors noticed that there are personality traits that influence how much…

Blaming Christmas

It is easy to blame Christmas for the stress, frustration, melt downs, depression and other negativity around the season.  However, if you look at it from the perspective that December 25 is a day like any other day it starts to become clear that it is not the day itself; our own expectations of the…

Too Sensitive

I complained to my counselor that someone close to me accused me of being ‘too sensitive.’  My counselor promptly replied, “You are.”  I felt betrayed and hurt.  He then went on to explain.  Think about a cut that is healing.  You touch the new scar tissue and the entire area is very tender and sensitive. …