I complained to my counselor that someone close to me accused me of being ‘too sensitive.’ My counselor promptly replied, “You are.” I felt betrayed and hurt. He then went on to explain. Think about a cut that is healing. You touch the new scar tissue and the entire area is very tender and sensitive. He continued that the more I heal the more sensitive I will become. WTF (Yes I know it doesn’t stand for Wow That’s Fantastic.) I used dissociation and numbing as a survival tactic. The numbing kept emotions raw and unprocessed and sensitive. My counselor continued to sooth me with words like compassionate, understanding, aware, and many other qualities I considered valuable….he explained that being sensitive to myself and others made it possible to have these beautiful qualities. What? Being sensitive was a ‘good’ thing? I now understand that the epitaph of ‘too sensitive’ was to stop my emotional reaction and leave me open to more abuse. Being sensitive is a good thing in healthy company. However, sometimes I need to soften things around me to a more bearable level. My daughter shared a wonderful web page that listed ways to help a child with sensory processing issues, being sensitive to the environment they are in. I read through the 13 ways to help and found several that should work well for me. I no longer cringe when someone accuses me to being ‘over sensitive’ because I now understand that artists are sensitive, musicians are sensitive…..yup. I am sensitive and proud of it. Sometimes I need to be in a cocoon to recover from all the sensitivity.
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I have been told that and it felt accusatory. I think the person just didn’t like being found to be insensitive. I think our traits can be our best quality but also our worst in that they can backfire and cause us pain. Sensitivity is a very good thing that others benefit from. It often causes me pain though.
I like that, ‘soften things around me to a bearable level.’