Blaming Christmas

It is easy to blame Christmas for the stress, frustration, melt downs, depression and other negativity around the season.  However, if you look at it from the perspective that December 25 is a day like any other day it starts to become clear that it is not the day itself; our own expectations of the…

Ho Ho No

Do you want to ________? No. Will you _____________? No. You have to __________? No. My counselor struggled to get me to recognize I have choices.  I kept saying, “I have to – “, “They make me -“, I truly believed I didn’t have a choice.  He tried and tried to get me to see…

Make a Plan

The holidays are coming….they come the same time every year.  Different holidays affect people differently.  For me, Halloween is just fun, no triggers.  However, Thanksgiving is at the top of my trigger lists.  The challenge is to sort out why the holiday is a problem then create a plan that helps you navigate the holiday. …