My counselor asked me why didn’t I tell? At first I didn’t know, because I didn’t remember. To help me get in touch with my feelings he gave me a children’s coloring book about feelings to use. Color this page happy and what color is sad and so on then came the page “What would…
One of the struggles of CPTSD and PTSD is Black and White thinking. Bad is BAD and Good is good and nothing in between. There is no such thing as sort of right. Perfectionism or else and you don’t want to know what ‘or else’ is going to be. My counselor spent many sessions trying…
One of the fascinating things I learned from one of the classes at school is that some of my responses to the world is not about PTSD/CPTSD at all. I am an introvert. I crave home alone time. I need time by myself to recharge my batteries. Sometimes my no peopling days is more about…
Some themes, poems, stories and experiences stick with me, mulling them over and over. I take them out and reread them and consider their import….why do I keep thinking about some of these? One such story is The Potato, the egg and Hot chocolate (I like it better than coffee in the original story.) Story…
I was asked a question I am struggling with how to write the answer, “What would you like therapists to know?” The first counselor I worked with was so extraordinary I had a hard time saying anything. He understood me in ways that I didn’t understand about myself. He led me to answers, allowing me…
Thank you for being patient with me while I am working on the costumes. I enjoyed watching Todd’s video on how often I do say I’m sorry and in the back of my mind I am feeling that I am apologizing for existing. I am working on this. One of my children pointed out…
Authors are always thinking of the perfect word. To help out someone created an emotion circle that breaks emotions down into 6 basic emotions. Here is the kicker….2/3rds are considered negative emotions. https://lifehacker.com/find-the-perfect-word-for-your-feelings-with-this-vocab-1653013241 Now when I read this, I didn’t agree with how the circle was arranged. I learned in counseling that anger is a…
What? I am supposed to self-care? Don’t I have enough to do caring for everyone else? https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/ Judy, my sister, found this link and shared it on her project/blog. Last round of 25 things my sister wrote after I did. This time I think I will reverse it and post the link to her…
Inspiration can come from many sources. “Don’t let nobody wrinkle your smooth” is wisdom from the Stickman in this video. By example he demonstrates how art blesses lives of those creating it. https://inspirationbygod.net/3843/the-wisdom-of-king-solomon-and-the-stick-man/ Recently I am facing challenges that are results from someone else facing their challenge. I was getting really upset last night by…
My counselor taught me this concept, over and over and over again. He emphasized that how we view ‘facts’ can be reframed to change the meaning. I found an article that describes this process. http://changingminds.org/techniques/general/reframing.htm A frame, or frame of reference is a complex schema of unquestioned beliefs, values and so on that we use…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 