Planning Helps prepare

Like clock work my anxiety rises and falls with certain seasons.  I finally figured out that the anxiety starts mid October…..my mother’s birthday….until end of school when she would finally relax.  My life still seems to revolve around my mother that explained to me she hated me in our last conversation. So how do I…

Helplessness

To me, this was the hardest to overcome but once I did, learning about my own power is a key element to my continued healing.  As long as I believed I was helpless, I could not believe I could be responsible for my change.  I needed to take back my power.  I needed to believe…

Self-protection

I am responsible for protecting myself.  Too long I waited for my mother, my father, my husband, someone to protect me…..I waited……..and waited.  Then I started counseling.  Maybe the counselor would protect me?  Nope.  He informed me that he would teach me how to protect myself. NO That’s it.  One word, no explanation needed.  I…

New webpage

Sometimes I read a quote on Facebook or on another blog that I want to share.  I include the link back to the page after I explore it a bit myself.  I don’t check out everything but I am impressed by what I saw. http://stevemaraboli.net/ I believe this goes along with my other post on…

Defining myself

One of the more irritating questions that my counselor harped on “Why do you keep giving your power away?”  It irritated me because I didn’t believe I had any power to give away in the first place.  Punching him crossed my mind once or twice but he always kept plenty of floor space between his…

Signs of Emotional Abuse

This one is tricky.  Hard to pin down since emotions are so volatile and changing with a thought.  How secure you are within yourself makes it harder for someone to abuse you emotionally.  This link is one of those annoying ones that you have to click after every paragraph but the signs are important to…

Change is a choice

I am continuing on with the Maladaptive schema and the things that my counselor taught me to counter act each one.  There isn’t one of them that I can’t change when I understand that I have choices.  I need to learn more and work hard but not impossible. http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2015/05/maladaptive-schemas.html Judy’s 7- 12 https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2015/05/13/roots-to-blossom-post-2/ 7.  VULNERABILITY…