Who needs enemies? An idiom that points out how some friends act more like enemies. Some family members are the worse thing that happen to a child. Growing up in unhealthy relationships, I didn’t know how to respond to healthy people. Self care concepts continued, #9: I struggle with making healthy relationship choices. I always…
Being married to a person with PTSD is tough. Ask my husband how difficult and unreasonable I can be. Counseling so many years ago started with marriage counseling. It quickly became obvious that very little marriage counseling could occur while I was so damaged and my thinking distorted by dissociation. My husband went with me…
In sports a good offense is sometimes the best tactic for winning a game. Having a win/loose attitude with relationships doesn’t work. My counselor taught me either both people win or both people lose. “I’m very defensive which can come across cold or nasty. I also portray quite a lot of negativity which seems to…
This week I am struggling with a deep bout of depression. I know the source. My mother stomped on a hot button that was buried since high school. A button that I only vaguely alluded to when I was in 10 years of counseling. Depression holds down the volcanic rage. Yes, depression is a tool…
I wanted to write an article with references about PTSD/CPTSD and relationships. Bless my husband for sticking with me through a rollercoaster of experiences and counseling. I want to share tips and ideas plus share resources to back up what I am writing. Frustration is finding articles that don’t talk about before and after trauma. …
One of the blogs I follow is Emerging from Broken by Darlene Ouimet. She posted her experience on confronting her abuser/mother. http://emergingfrombroken.com/to-confront-or-not-to-confront-that-is-the-question/ Darlene points out several of the issues when confronting. Not wanting to hurt their feelings. Concern that she would be just like them. Lack of self care. I also talked to my counselor…
People seem to expect that the final reason a person leaves a relationship is something big. Sometimes this is true. However, many times it is a matter of ‘the last straw that broke the camels back.’ The term refers to the piling on and piling on of events or behaviors that put so much stain…
Early in my counseling I learned that TBI and PTSD have many similarities. They also have plenty of differences. PTSD Break the Silence is a page on Facebook. If you have Facebook, I recommend adding this page to your resources. PTSD Break The Silence Tips for Communicating with People with TBI (Note: Many people who…
How can this be a negative comment? This took me by surprise at first then I thought about how it came across to me. I am continuing the list of things not to say. http://communicatingacrossboundariesblog.com/2015/09/28/stupid-phrases-for-people-in-crisis/ The writer of the article shared a personal experience when they were struggling and someone asked, “Did you pray about…
My sister shared a link to Coming Back Home about why people with PTSD tend to push others away. http://canadianveteransadvocacy.com/comingbackhome/?p=946 She also share her challenges with being with people. https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2015/06/16/sliding-in-a-post-from-coming-back-home/ I did use a stuffed TV vegetable tomato as she mentioned in her blog. It was the fabric kind with a big fat lip and…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 