Fun in Dysfunctional
I just found out on Facebook that my mother died tonight. Not sure what to think about this.
Cart before the Horse
I am in holiday season mode. Maintaining and not moving too much. Hence, the breaks and gaps between posts. https://ptsd-acceptingcopingthriving.com/2018/11/15/phases/ A couple of weeks back I posted about the “Gold Standard” of counseling being taught in phases. My experience was I wanted to get strait to the processing and hurry up and get it over…
Mile in my shoes
Before judging me and my choices, walk a mile in my shoes…..then you are a mile away and I can’t hear you. Too often it is comments and words and ‘well meaning’ advice that can really hurt. Instead of expecting other people to watch what they say, I am working on a list of…
Taking back Joy
Not sure how to start this post. I looked up my original wording and the connotation is totally different from what I meant. I’ll try starting at the beginning. Caution – deep difficult subject. My mother raised me in a fear based living system. Everything I did was geared to avoid being hit or berated. …
Gratitude is…
An integral part of healing. Gratitude helps me see the good things in a day. Gratitude helps me see the good in me. I started counting blessings. Lots of them. I did the blessing a day for a month and barely scratched the surface. Then someone pointed out that counting blessings was putting a limit…
Things that are helpful to say
Sometimes people don’t know what to say. One of the other bloggers I follow gave a great list of helpful words to say to someone with PTSD/CPTSD. However, please keep in mind that abusers use kind phrases and twist them to hurt their prey. So I’m giving you a heads up that these are not…
Holiday tips from Warrior’s Landing….
Originally posted on PTSD – Accepting, Coping, Thriving:
Warrior’s Landing added a new photo to the album Holidays – Trauma Tips. If you are wondering why you have difficulty surrounding holidays and/or anniversaries of traumatic dates – YOU ARE NOT ALONE. These dates can creep up on us and without realizing it often weeks or…
Phases
Hey, my counselor did this. Every so often I read something that a therapist should do and it is exactly what my therapist did do but didn’t spell out exactly. https://www.blueknot.org.au/Workers-Practitioners/For-Health-Professionals/Resources-for-Health-Professionals/Best-Practice-Guidelines Phase 1 – Make sure the client is safe and stabilized. If they are still in an abuse situation and in danger, the whole…
not enough
I am continuing on the list of things that are recommended for therapist to do. I believe these are important to recognize for the client because as a person seeing a therapist I can make the work harder or easier. If I understand what my own options are I can work towards my strengths. Sadly,…
Met the enemy
And they is us….. Old quote hung around for years and years because it still applies. My sister reposted a meme that spells out one of my greatest challenges. I learned so much in counseling, yet I catch myself on the same self destructive paths, repeat ad nauseum. Heavy sigh. Sick for a three day…
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