Growing up a child does not get to choose what is taught. A child can be taught black is white and hate is right and cruelty is funny. Yes, I experienced some of these. So when a child hits teen years usually enough other people are in their life for them to doubt, question or…
This one is tricky. Hard to pin down since emotions are so volatile and changing with a thought. How secure you are within yourself makes it harder for someone to abuse you emotionally. This link is one of those annoying ones that you have to click after every paragraph but the signs are important to…
The truth will make you free but first it will make you really miserable. ~ Barry Stevens, born Mildred Fox, used by James A. Garfield and others Judy (my sister) and I often discuss the importance of truth. Our perspective changed abruptly when we understood our childhood was littered with lies. Lies upon lies or…
I read several PTSD blogs to keep up on what other people are discovering and trying with PTSD. I appreciated the post over at Healing from Complex PTSD discussing the difference between a trigger and discerning current bad behavior. https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2016/06/20/when-triggers-are-actually-intuition-discernment-lilly-hope-lucario/ My thoughts on the issue is that it isn’t a trigger if the bad behavior…
One of the frustrations of PTSD is after a wonderful experience, a crash often follows close on or a trigger seems 10 times more annoying when you felt on top of the world to slam down again. On these rough days I like to remember the quote I saw from several sources. (Not sure who…
This week I was at an indoor park watching my grandchildren play while their Moms had a few minutes of Mom time. I was doing exactly what I always dreamed to be doing. My hyper-vigilance was a plus because I kept track of all of them in a sea of wiggling happy excitement of children’s…
One of the challenges of looking for help is finding someone that understands PTSD. The second challenge is the mistaken belief that they can fix you. I started counseling with the vague idea that going the therapist would magically fix my problems. Doesn’t work that way. A good counselor in my opinion shares with you…
June is declared by someone to be PTSD awareness month. For those living with it, we are aware 24/7, if you unfamiliar with this number combination it means, 24 hours a day and 7 days a week. No time off for good behavior. I sometimes get fairly smug thinking it is gone from my life…
One of the abuses that I faced was religious abuse. Twisting scriptures to their own design abusers use God as their motivation to terrorize and brutalize their victims. I didn’t read the Bible for a long time because of how it was used to twist meanings. I am sharing from my other blog this response…
I started counseling with my husband in marriage counseling. After several ‘failed’ homework assignments, the counselor asked me about my childhood. I chirped, “It was great, we went to the park, we went to the zoo. It was a great childhood.” He shook his head and persisted, “Tell me an average day.” He knew before…
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