Building a team

Holidays are a time when many people have triggers.  Emotions run high so does anxiety and tempers.  Preventive maintenance makes a difference.  Put your boundaries in place.  Tell trusted people what you need to do better during the holidays.  Building your team when you are under less stress so that they are there for you…

Arguments

The holiday season is arriving sadly in some families due to stresses and triggers tempers seem to flare too.  I clipped this from a Facebook page. I think I need to put this one on my brain to remember where ever I go. I found the link to the author’s page, please visit, great ideas…

Antidote to Hopelessness

Hopelessness is precursor to suicide.  That moment in time when nothing good seems possible.  You wake up again in pain and darkness knowing the same thing will happen tomorrow.  When I first heard that gratitude was the antidote to hopelessness it was said in such away that I felt hurt.  A glib off the cuff,…

Mourn with those the mourn

Sorrow, sadness, grief expressed and felt for those that suffer through out the world.  It is OK to grieve together.  Yes, symptoms of PTSD such as anxiety, overwhelming emotions, and nightmares, to name a few, may increase during times of tragedy.  I do not believe that grieving with France, lessens or negates, the sorrow caused…

Confessions

I share about thriving.  I share about my progress.  When I hit another PTSD flare up, I feel guilty writing about how great things can become.  Unfortunately, setbacks, triggers, and times of struggling happen again and again.  I learned this past few months that hitting a rough patch doesn’t mean I’m not progressing.  I got…

Thriving

Each year, I talk to the students studying early childhood education.  Part of the required curriculum is learning about abuse.  I discuss openly that I experienced every form of abuse, physical, emotional, mental, sexual, spiritual, social, and verbal.  Some of these abuses overlap each other.  Many times verbal abuse is also emotional abuse.  Sexual abuse…

Rude and mean need correcting

Just because someone is Rude or Mean it doesn’t mean the behavior should be ignored.  The earlier post defines bullying as malicious acts carried out intentionally over time.  If a person is accidentally rude, bringing it to their attention helps them understand that what they are doing is not ok.  If they do it again,…

Rude, Mean vs Bully

A Mighty Girl   Thanks Mighty girl for sharing this article.  Thanks to those that passed it to me. Signe Whitson, a child and adolescent therapist, has a timely message for parents and educators: “there is a real need to draw a distinction between behavior that is rude, behavior that is mean and behavior that is…

PTSD has the upper hand

I worked hard through 10 years of counseling.  Then every so often PTSD gets the upper hand.  I slide back down into the pit of gurgling unresolved emotions with slick steep sides and no rope thrown to me.  PTSD is an on going battle.  I start to believe I have it whipped and it sweeps…