Of the same problem….Trust. 14. “I avoid asking help from anyone because I don’t trust anyone. I believe if someone offers me a hand, there will always be something they [want to] ask in return. I have friends but I don’t have a best friend. I keep my distance from people. Automatically, my wall blocks…
In sports a good offense is sometimes the best tactic for winning a game. Having a win/loose attitude with relationships doesn’t work. My counselor taught me either both people win or both people lose. “I’m very defensive which can come across cold or nasty. I also portray quite a lot of negativity which seems to…
I felt like a complete dweeb when I started college. My parents made all my major decisions for me including what to study in college, where I went to college, and basically what I wore to college. Yup, I was controlled that completely. Teenagers don’t magically turn into decision making adults without making their own…
One of the main points of this blog is to share activities, changes, and thinking that have helped me cope with PTSD better after counseling than before. The huge division for me was BC before counseling and AC after counseling. There is a reason for this. Before counseling I didn’t know what was wrong with…
I believe that every person with PTSD or not had difficulties with relationships because we are human. We don’t see things the same way. We don’t respond to stress in the same way. We all have different expectations. However, PTSD and trauma can add layers of difficulty that can be difficult to cut through. Me…
Judy, my sister, debunked one of the memes on her blog….https://theprojectbyjudy.wordpress.com/2017/05/22/meme-debunking-20/ A lack of boundaries often invites a lack of respect. No. Just no. Bad choice of verb. A lack of boundaries does NOT INVITE a lack of respect. A lack of boundaries usually means that boundaries were NOT RESPECTED in the first place. My version would…
I wrestled with cognitive dissonance but I didn’t know what it was or why it was sooooo uncomfortable. In counseling, I encountered extreme cognitive dissonance when my counselor tried to convince me I was a good person. Most people believe they are a good person. From the time I was small I was told repeatedly…
“When the student is ready, the teacher will appear” Buddhist Proverb quotes I remembered this quote and thought of all the times I needed a teacher….I looked for them. The hardest part was getting myself to the point of being ready to listen. I believe the teachers are there all the time but I don’t…
Awareness of childhood sexual abuse “We only believe those thoughts which have been conceived not in the brain but in the whole body” – W.B. Yeats * The process triggered by working with the brain and the body in conjunction deepen cognitive development significantly in the areas of evaluating, analyzing, applying and remembering *…
So does thriving. I am fascinated when two articles come together about the same time totally unconnected as to how I got them. Facebook for one and an email for the other. I am recognizing in myself a need for more change. I equate my experience in counseling as doing something similar to changing my…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 