This is a forever lament for those in the healing process. Why didn’t I get counseling years ago? Why didn’t I get away from that abuser years ago? Why? Why? Why? I found a quote that I believe encapsulates why. “At first people refuse to believe that a strange new thing can be done, then…
I wanted to write an article with references about PTSD/CPTSD and relationships. Bless my husband for sticking with me through a rollercoaster of experiences and counseling. I want to share tips and ideas plus share resources to back up what I am writing. Frustration is finding articles that don’t talk about before and after trauma. …
I believe one of the difficult things about PTSD is it gets muddled and mashed up into a terrible mess. I lived with PTSD over 40 years not knowing I had it. It was disguised as over active imagination, aka nightmares, depression, hormones, being a girl, moody, and a host of other things. Psychcentral shared…
A survivor of child abuse knows that their self esteem bucket had holes punched all over it…Some of their buckets were run over by a semi-truck and trailer. Some abuse survivors can still hear the ‘beep, beep, beep’ of that truck backing up. Words like what Pavelka mentions for his toolbox seem like a foreign…
Tough one here. How many times I wished that the memories in my mind would be let go? Please understand, I forgot everything about my life before high school and not much in high school I forgot but my body didn’t let it go. I had body memories, triggers, and extreme reactions with no understanding…
Pavelka’s Toolbox includes the question “How do you eat an elephant?” The answer of course is cut it up. With PTSD, I was overwhelmed by a massive blue whale….. Weight: up to 330,000 pounds or 150,000 kg Length 110 feet or 33 m An Elephant is a measly….. Weight: up to 15,000 pounds or 7000kg …
I explored James Ryan’s speech on good questions this week. I hope you had time to read the speech for yourself. Here is his summary: My claim is that if you regularly ask: wait, what, I wonder, couldn’t we at least, how can I help, and what really matters, when it comes time to ask…
I asked for years what was wrong with me. No answers….I asked my parents and my doctor. Nothing. Medical test showed I was healthy….then why did I pass out? My parents told me I was like every other teenager. I talked to other teenagers and they didn’t react like I did. I learned two things…
I followed a link to another link to another one until I landed on this link about What is DBT? http://behavioraltech.org/resources/whatisdbt.cfm Reading about DBT I realized that this is part of what my counselor did with me. My counselor used a variety of methods depending on what I seemed to respond to. He learned that…
Change your mood….change your behavior…..change your thinking. Mood/emotions, behavior, and thinking are so interconnected that changing one changes the others. I am always searching for more articles and websites explaining ways that might help with coping with PTSD. I am learning more about emotions all the time. I spent a good share of my life…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 