Summary of questions

I explored James Ryan’s speech on good questions this week.  I hope you had time to read the speech for yourself.  Here is his summary:

My claim is that if you regularly ask: wait, what, I wonder, couldn’t we at least, how can I help, and what really matters, when it comes time to ask yourself “And did you get what you wanted out of life, even so,” your answer will be “I did.”  https://www.gse.harvard.edu/news/16/05/good-questions

 

Two things had to occur for me to tackle these questions. One, I needed to believe I could question my life.  That was important.  As long as I stuck to the status quo, I would stay stuck in my deep hole of depression.

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”

Henry Ford

The second thing I needed to accept was rule number one of counseling, “Stop lying, especially to yourself.”  Counseling opened my eyes to the lies I was told and what I told myself to survive in insanity.  I had to stop lying about how I was treated.  I had to stop lying that everything was wonderful in my childhood.  I had to stop lying that nothing bothered me.  I had to stop lying and creating a fantasy land that only existed in my mind.  Harsh reality was difficult to face but once I did, I could move forward through the bog that is my life. I keep cleaning out and clearing out distortions, lies, and manipulated truths.  I still slip back to “I’m FINE” mode but inside my head I remind myself to not lie to myself.  If I’m not FINE it is not the end of the world.  It is OK.
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