Summary of questions

I explored James Ryan’s speech on good questions this week.  I hope you had time to read the speech for yourself.  Here is his summary:

My claim is that if you regularly ask: wait, what, I wonder, couldn’t we at least, how can I help, and what really matters, when it comes time to ask yourself “And did you get what you wanted out of life, even so,” your answer will be “I did.”


Two things had to occur for me to tackle these questions. One, I needed to believe I could question my life.  That was important.  As long as I stuck to the status quo, I would stay stuck in my deep hole of depression.

“If you always do what you’ve always done, you’ll always get what you’ve always got.”

Henry Ford

The second thing I needed to accept was rule number one of counseling, “Stop lying, especially to yourself.”  Counseling opened my eyes to the lies I was told and what I told myself to survive in insanity.  I had to stop lying about how I was treated.  I had to stop lying that everything was wonderful in my childhood.  I had to stop lying that nothing bothered me.  I had to stop lying and creating a fantasy land that only existed in my mind.  Harsh reality was difficult to face but once I did, I could move forward through the bog that is my life. I keep cleaning out and clearing out distortions, lies, and manipulated truths.  I still slip back to “I’m FINE” mode but inside my head I remind myself to not lie to myself.  If I’m not FINE it is not the end of the world.  It is OK.
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