Negotiating Troubled Waters

One of the things that often overwhelms a person with PTSD is negotiating troubled waters, difficult relationships, uncharted experiences, and other stuff that is just plain difficult.  Relationship challenges probably hit the top of the list for almost every person with PTSD.  Many resort to reclusing, aloneness, hibernating, withdrawing or some other form of getting…

I try

I try to care for myself but I seem to put hurdles in front of my that make it more difficult.  I am cutting soy out of my diet.  But then I look longingly at the bake goodies that all have soy in them.  Reading the label 20 times does not change the ingredients.  However,…

Self-care, Are you?

What?  I am supposed to self-care?  Don’t I have enough to do caring for everyone else? https://healingfromcomplextraumaandptsd.wordpress.com/2017/07/16/25-obvious-non-obvious-self-care-issues-complex-trauma-survivors-struggle-with-lilly-hope-lucario/   Judy, my sister, found this link and shared it on her project/blog. Last round of 25 things my sister wrote after I did.  This time I think I will reverse it and post the link to her…

Nobody guessed

How really messed up I was.  I excelled at the hiding game.  Our children were the first ones to really notice a recurring theme that their mother was not the same in all situations.  One of them accused me of lying.  I was appalled. When I entered counseling and discovered the dance between personalities that…

Don’t let nobody wrinkle your Smooth

Inspiration can come from many sources.  “Don’t let nobody wrinkle your smooth” is wisdom from the Stickman in this video.  By example he demonstrates how art blesses lives of those creating it. https://inspirationbygod.net/3843/the-wisdom-of-king-solomon-and-the-stick-man/ Recently I am facing challenges that are results from someone else facing their challenge.  I was getting really upset last night by…

Relief

Facing my fears sometimes reduces them to miniature.  Other times with the help of a knowledgeable person I am able to make realistic choices that fit into my life.  I am given another new challenge that is listed as wait and see.  I am learning to be very comfortable with wait and see. Patience is…

What to do with anger?

My counselor taught me that anger is a secondary emotion, hurt, fear, and frustration come first. If your therapist is willing let them walk you through pealing back the anger to explore the hurt you have felt, the fear generated from your experiences, and frustration that people don’t change. Another part of the package is…

Advantage of religion

Every bit of research I’ve read on PTSD and religion is that those with some belief in a Supreme Being have the advantage.  They believe there is something more, something bigger than this one moment.  I had nightmares most of last night I woke up and was thankful to be awake.  Sleep is highly overrated. …