Can be detrimental to your health and relationships. I mentioned in my last post about Rescuer’s High. This is the feeling you get when you come in and fix everything for someone else. The rush of feeling like a hero even if the solution was detrimental to the person being rescued. I didn’t understand the…
I was once asked by a counselor what aspects of my life were impacted by PTSD. Simple answer, “All of it.” There is not one part of my life left untouched by PTSD, or some people are calling multiple event trauma Complex PTSD. I struggled with understanding how deeply I am affected. I was raised…
This question worked great for me. My therapist used it at the beginning of every session for 7 years. However, my sister was less than impressed by the same question. It sounded too much like our mother stating, “You’re doing the doing do it your way,” unfortunately we learned painfully in spite of the words…
Sometimes when I talk about having PTSD the response I get is “You’re too normal.” First off, normal is a setting on a drier. Yes, I am high functioning because I worked hard at it. People seeing me now don’t know about the 3 years in bed, the 7 years towards recovery layered on with…
One of the things pounded into abuse victims is they are not worth caring for or even getting the basics like enough food, proper clothing, or bathroom breaks. Conditioning trains them to view self-care as selfish and how dare they not meet the needs of the abuser first. Then comes a change and the victim…
I like to do meme busters but I also recognize when a meme hits a hard truth and puts into words what I did not want to say. Someone posted that this was obvious but for me before counseling it wasn’t You don’t need to set yourself on fire to keep someone else warm. Actually…
Awareness is rising that suicide is 100% preventable but how we go about doing that is not 100% successful. The meme brought up in this article says, “Suicide doesn’t stop the pain; it passes it on to somebody else.” Read the article for their perspective I’m going to share what I think about this phrase.…
I belong to two CPTSD Facebook groups. Information is shared, encouragement given, and is a fairly safe place to share. When someone mentions a video or mentor they like, I look them up. Find out what they believe is helpful. I found many things that help me cope and feel like I am thriving. This…
All over people are celebrating the blessings of mothers and motherhood. Sadly, it is not a day of celebration for many. Heart break when you can’t have children. Heart break when a baby doesn’t live. Heart break of a still born child or miscarriage. Heart break of losing a mother to drugs, alcohol or death. …
I saw myself as small, helpless, dominated, squashed….a worm with no back bone. If anyone called me a victor I would look at them very strangely. I did not see myself in a positive light. Yet, I believed I could change. I chose change, lots of change. As I changed, I started looking at different…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 