Survivors rarely self-care

One of the things pounded into abuse victims is they are not worth caring for or even getting the basics like enough food, proper clothing, or bathroom breaks.  Conditioning trains them to view self-care as selfish and how dare they not meet the needs of the abuser first.  Then comes a change and the victim…

Why Baby-Steps?

I emphasize over and over again to use Baby-steps.  There is a reason.  A person suffering from PTSD had life experiences that left them feeling helpless at some point in their life.  One of the after-affects is victim thinking….I am powerless, I can’t protect myself, I can’t meet my basic needs of safety, food and…