Many Faces of Shame

Shame came up fairly early in my counseling.  I was given a book about shame and tried to explain that there was shame and toxic shame only there isn’t a different name for toxic shame so there is shame that is good for you and shame that is bad for you but no wait maybe…

Barriers to sharing

Hectic week but I am forging forward with the lists of best practice principles on Blueknot…https://www.blueknot.org.au/Workers-Practitioners/For-Health-Professionals/Resources-for-Health-Professionals/Best-Practice-Guidelines One of the difficult things about counseling is sharing an ugly past.  They point out that diminishing, discounting, and ignoring what happened are all part of the issues centered on sharing past events.  Blueknot points out several parts of…

Ideas to help accommodate

One more party to go….New Year’s Eve. I usually avoid New Year parties.  Often I spend them watching on TV the New Year pass as the globe turns.  Every hour another city televises their celebration.  My daughter with TBI, traumatic brain injury, posted a link to the Mighty on how to accommodate a person with…

Don’t let nobody wrinkle your Smooth

Inspiration can come from many sources.  “Don’t let nobody wrinkle your smooth” is wisdom from the Stickman in this video.  By example he demonstrates how art blesses lives of those creating it. https://inspirationbygod.net/3843/the-wisdom-of-king-solomon-and-the-stick-man/ Recently I am facing challenges that are results from someone else facing their challenge.  I was getting really upset last night by…

Impact

*********Trigger Warning***********   I admire Lilly Hope Lucario.  Her blog is specifically for those that are survivors of sexual abuse.  I appreciate her sharing her ideas about surviving child sexual abuse.  I read one of her articles recently – Please be prepared for a tough read.  If you are not in a place ready to openly…

Woes of People Pleasing

I’m combining these next two things that I did.  This was a monster hurdle because everyone loves someone that does everything for them, right?  Yup, lots of rewards but sometimes at a terrible cost.  The cost of myself, my relationships, my dreams, my needs didn’t exist. 12. “I feel the need to please everybody I…