What is support?

I am moving slowly through this list of best practices from the perspective of the therapist.  I’m trying to add in my perspective as a client.  Hopefully, it comes off as helpful and not confusing.  I know that with the hundreds of conversations I had with my counselor there were several times that he understood…

Trusting Friends

Back in September my sister Judy shared an article on self-care.  I decided to write my perspective and share her link but then life happened for both of us.  I am not complaining or sad, it just happened.  A lot of what happened was good and awesomeness.  She got back on track with sharing her…

Attitude of Gratitude

“I have an attitude and I know how to use it.”  Seems contradictory.  One of the many things I learned in counseling is the Art of Gratitude.  Like many life skills, gratitude is a skill that needs to be taught.  Receiving a gift, a compliment, or some good deed may be difficult for someone with…

Train to use the tools

Train to use the tools in your toolbox.  I started with practicing with my counselor.  Then I practiced on a person that was truly out to get me fired.  If the experiment went badly I didn’t worry because I wasn’t building a relationship, I was learning to protect myself from those that wish to do…

Sometimes the answer is NO

I put off this question because it is staring me in the face right now….. “Couldn’t we at least…?” This is the question to ask that will enable you to get unstuck, as they say. It’s what enables you to get past disagreement to some consensus, as in couldn’t we at least agree that we…