I went hunting and found the maladaptive schema post from about 2 years ago. http://weareone-ruth.blogspot.com/2015/05/maladaptive-schemas.html I am curious how I am doing now….. Black is the definition, red is Roots2blossom, Judy and my comments from 2 years ago and green is now. There is a larger explanation on the web page and I recommend looking…
I finished Pavelka’s toolbox I have additional tools beyond the ones he mentions. My counselor worked at making sure I have a well stocked toolbox for how to handle different situations. I learned not to use a sledge hammer when a ball ping hammer will do. I still use some of my heavy duty arsenal,…
Tough one here. How many times I wished that the memories in my mind would be let go? Please understand, I forgot everything about my life before high school and not much in high school I forgot but my body didn’t let it go. I had body memories, triggers, and extreme reactions with no understanding…
Some people online are crying, “Does PTSD ever end?” They feel frustrated, hurt, and isolated. I don’t know if it ever ends. I’ve had it since I was 5 years old, I will turn 59 next month. I control it much better after years of counseling. I may have many good days in a row. …
I work at a high school. Over and over again the teachers ask, “Do you have any questions?” Students are absolutely silent. Then they begin their work and becomes painfully obvious that they needed to ask questions. I learned to do this myself. I asked questions about everything. When I first worked in a computer…
I am working on The PTSD Workbook, 2nd edition, Mary Beth Williams, PhD, LCSW, CTS and Soili Poijula, PhD. In their book, they refer to another book, A Clinical Handbook/Practical Therapist Manual for Assessing and Treating Adults with Post-traumatic Stress Disorder (Meichenbaum 1994) the authors noticed that there are personality traits that influence how much…
A friend posted a link of what they wanted their daughter to know when things get real. Looks a lot like the list my counselor had me work on to learn to live instead of just survive. Early in my counseling he gave me the challenge “to thrive not just survive.” Game ON!!!! http://www.scarymommy.com/want-my-daughter-know-as-grows-up/ Language…
A post on Facebook led to a link to an article with 49 phrases to use to calm an anxious child. I am going to explain how these can be used to calm an anxious adult, especially yourself: (My inner child needed lots of calming, especially when I was in counseling and remembering my past.) …
One of the articles I read discuss 6 forms of emotional abuse and give examples of each kind. https://afternarcissisticabuse.wordpress.com/2013/11/02/6-types-of-emotional-abuse-by-narcissistic-parents/ 1. Rejecting 2. Ignoring 3. Terrorizing 4. Isolating 5. Corrupting 6. Exploiting I remember a friend of mine telling me how furious she was when her teenage son came home and told her that her behavior…
Two articles were brought to my attention, both discussing mental health/depression myths. http://lifehacker.com/the-misconceptions-about-mental-illness-we-need-to-unle-1711647132 “Mental Health Problems Last Forever” “Only Violent or Unstable People Have Mental Health Problems” “You Can’t Handle Relationships” “You Can Just Snap Out of It” “Treatment Is a Waste of Time” or worse, “Only weaklings seek counseling.” All of these are misunderstandings…
PTSD - Accepting, Coping, Thriving 