What it is not

In the media, online and gossip around me have some fairly messed up ideas about PTSD.  PTSD/CPTSD is not rudeness, cruelty to others, or criminal behavior.  Recently, I heard someone say that the reason a person was so rude was because they were mentally ill.  WRONG.  Missing social skills, yes.  Lack of proper upbringing, yes. …

My survival tool

My counselor helped me to understand that PTSD was my survival tool for extreme situations.  The issue that arose was using extreme measures for every day living.  He pointed out that wearing full body armor in war times is reasonable.  However, when the bombing stops carrying around all that armor wore me down and tired…

12 Symptoms

People sometimes ask, “What is the difference between PTSD and Complex PTSD?”  Fast explanation, “It is the same difference between a simple broken leg and a compound fracture.”  Some people explain it has to do with age, duration, care taker vs stranger, and other external influences that complicate the person’s reaction.  I follow Lilly Hope…

Ideas to help accommodate

One more party to go….New Year’s Eve. I usually avoid New Year parties.  Often I spend them watching on TV the New Year pass as the globe turns.  Every hour another city televises their celebration.  My daughter with TBI, traumatic brain injury, posted a link to the Mighty on how to accommodate a person with…

Tired of being tired

I believe one of the predominant feelings of people with PTSD is “Tired of being Tired.” The interesting thing about tiredness is it comes from multiple sources.  Hyper-vigilance sustained over long periods of time puts a lot of wear and tear on the body.  Super alert constantly leaves little time for the body to rejuvenate. …

PTSD gets blamed

One of the most fascinating insights to come out of my counseling is PTSD isn’t always to blame.  Sometimes life is plain hard no matter what your past experiences threw at you.  I appreciated Annie Wright sharing her perspective on Adulting and Humaning.  I blame PTSD but sometimes: Adulting’s not always easy. And humaning can…

Similar frustration

My friend posted an article about cancer patients that are bombarded with ‘easy answers’ and ‘insensitive advice’.  Steven Thrasher the author shared his sister’s experience with cancer.  https://www.theguardian.com/commentisfree/2016/mar/26/do-not-tell-cancer-patients-cures-they-could-be-doing She fought for 15 years before the cancer beat her.  He shares how people advised her to drink juice, do yoga, be cheerful and many other less…

Collapse

I push my body and push my body until I collapse.  I put up with this since I was 15 years old.  I am going a long, then bam my entire system shuts down.  Happened in the car today and yes I was driving.  Thank my overworked guardian angel, I didn’t hit anything or anyone. …

Beyond Pain

One of the difficult things with PTSD is people ask, “How bad was it?” Like there has to be some scale to measure pain before it is “OK” to have PTSD.  What is bad or the worst thing to one person may be a piece of cake to someone else.  Too often a person with…

PTSD and Grief

  PTSD and grief are similar that you need to go through these steps.  Try another route if you must but you still come through these 4 steps.  Thanks to my friend in Australia for sharing this. I’m glad I just found this :© EPEC Project,1999 Module 12: Last Hours of Living, Part 3 Page…