Skills to learn

Before I started counseling I learned that to change your actions you need to change your thoughts.  I intellectually got it but something seemed missing.  I didn’t realize the thing missing was my own connection to my emotions.  Counseling shed light into the dark parts of my mind and helped me start to connect my…

Change apologies to thank yous

I ran across two of these memes so I posted both of them.  Not sure which came out first.  Before counseling, I apologized all the time, even when things were not my fault at all.  I felt like anything unpleasant was my fault.  If I just did better, prepared better, been better the problem would…

Self Talk

Growing up with a constant flow of criticism and ways to ‘improve’ myself I have an internal tape that is down right cruel.  My sister and I talk often about how to disrupt the negative tapes in our heads.  The most interesting experiment is when we played Can-you-top-this with our own negative tapes.  Instead of…