I ran across two of these memes so I posted both of them. Not sure which came out first. Before counseling, I apologized all the time, even when things were not my fault at all. I felt like anything unpleasant was my fault. If I just did better, prepared better, been better the problem would not have happened. Counseling taught me this was fault thinking. I especially like this concept because I view myself more kindly. I am more aware of how many people are indeed kind to me. I also noticed that it has a positive effect on most people. I am acknowledging their kindness. It feels better all the way around. Now, if I can just remember to do this each time. Work in progress, always a work in progress.