I ran across two of these memes so I posted both of them.  Not sure which came out first.  Before counseling, I apologized all the time, even when things were not my fault at all.  I felt like anything unpleasant was my fault.  If I just did better, prepared better, been better the problem would not have happened.  Counseling taught me this was fault thinking.  I especially like this concept because I view myself more kindly.  I am more aware of how many people are indeed kind to me.  I also noticed that it has a positive effect on most people.  I am acknowledging their kindness.  It feels better all the way around.  Now, if I can just remember to do this each time.  Work in progress, always a work in progress.