Know where you are going

Alice asked the Cheshire Cat which road she should take: “Alice: Would you tell me, please, which way I ought to go from here? The Cheshire Cat: That depends a good deal on where you want to get to. Alice: I don’t much care where. The Cheshire Cat: Then it doesn’t much matter which way…

Healing is a Choice

I am writing several posts about acceptance…accepting myself, my diagnosis, my challenges.  Along the way I noticed in my reading about acceptance that some people interpret acceptance as staying the way they are.  I don’t believe this.  I accept where I am but that doesn’t mean I plan to stay that way.  I believe strongly…

Science of Thriving

My counselor told me early on that his goal for me was to not just survive but to thrive.  Rah Rah Great….The next week I came back and asked, “What is thriving?”  At first he seemed to think I was jerking his chain then he realized I didn’t know what he meant, for real.  He…

The Music Didn’t End

I follow several PTSD groups on Facebook.  Many of the posts are filled with dread of a future that ended with PTSD….I love the link they posted of the violinist Itzhaik Perlman.  He portrays the attitude I believe in or as Dory put it, “Just Keep Swimming.” (Finding Nemo.) I believe this is the best…

PTSD gets blamed

One of the most fascinating insights to come out of my counseling is PTSD isn’t always to blame.  Sometimes life is plain hard no matter what your past experiences threw at you.  I appreciated Annie Wright sharing her perspective on Adulting and Humaning.  I blame PTSD but sometimes: Adulting’s not always easy. And humaning can…

Why I started this blog

Every once in a while I get a reminder why I started this blog.  I purchased a workbook about PTSD.  (Not naming which one because I have seen the assumption in more than one.) Chapter 1 “Prior to the occurrence of a traumatic event or events, there are generally basic assumptions that guide your life.”…