Authenticity

Authenticity 1. The quality or condition of being authentic, trustworthy, or genuine.  dictionary.search.yahoo.com Ooo boy was this ever a toughy for me.  I first had to understand that my whole life was built on lies, half truths, and fear.  My counselor held the mirror while I looked at my past.  I didn’t remember any of…

Back to basics

Back to basics is a buzz word at school referring to the need to teach reading, writing and arithmetic.  Getting back to basics in psychological terms is boundaries, authenticity, and self-regulation.  Child abuse interferes with learning these basics.  My boundaries were violated so often and so completely I didn’t even know what they were.  Simply…

Victim to survivor to thrivor

I’m fairly sure the last one is not a word, but it needs to be.  Thriving was not part of my vocabulary.  I understood taking orders, I knew how to survive; it is like I knew how to drive a tank but didn’t know how to walk down a city street.  I do believe some…

Chicken or the Egg?

The age old debate of which came first the chicken or the egg?  An article on Bullying in the work place noticed that those that are already anxious are more likely to be targeted.  My counselor told me the same thing when I joked I must have a target on my back.  He responded that…

Learning sometime

This week I wrote the keys for the students to correct their classwork about teaching children emotional intelligence.  Unlike intellectual intelligence, the studies show that emotional intelligence is learned.  I have permission from the teacher to share links and other information about how to teach children how to recognize, name, and work with their emotions. …

All consuming

One of the struggles of PTSD or Complex PTSD is the tendency for the symptoms to take over everything.  I find it difficult sometimes to remind myself that I am not PTSD.  I have PTSD and the diagnosis gives me a term to look up to find out ways other people over come their struggles. …

Assertive vs Aggressive

Is it possible to be assertive in a life and death situation?  I don’t think so because assertive implies that the person you are talking to is not a homicidal death threat.  People that experience PTSD lived in a life and death situation at some point in their life.  Kind of a prerequisite symptom is…