Chicken or the Egg?

The age old debate of which came first the chicken or the egg?  An article on Bullying in the work place noticed that those that are already anxious are more likely to be targeted.  My counselor told me the same thing when I joked I must have a target on my back.  He responded that…

Learning sometime

This week I wrote the keys for the students to correct their classwork about teaching children emotional intelligence.  Unlike intellectual intelligence, the studies show that emotional intelligence is learned.  I have permission from the teacher to share links and other information about how to teach children how to recognize, name, and work with their emotions. …

All consuming

One of the struggles of PTSD or Complex PTSD is the tendency for the symptoms to take over everything.  I find it difficult sometimes to remind myself that I am not PTSD.  I have PTSD and the diagnosis gives me a term to look up to find out ways other people over come their struggles. …

Assertive vs Aggressive

Is it possible to be assertive in a life and death situation?  I don’t think so because assertive implies that the person you are talking to is not a homicidal death threat.  People that experience PTSD lived in a life and death situation at some point in their life.  Kind of a prerequisite symptom is…

Pithy comebacks

One of my frustrations in life is I think of a comeback to a snarky comment an hour after the event.  I realize and understand that the desire for a pointed return comment is a defense mechanism that needs to be used sparingly.  Many times I choose to walk away and simply ignore ignorant people…

My mind is spinning

My counselor left me in no doubt early in my counseling what he thought of my emotional understanding; he called me an emotional moron.  At the time, I felt a little put off, today I realized he was being kind.  I work at a school that teaches high school students what they need to know…