I ran across an interesting article that shared the ‘Code Words’ people use to mask what they are really feeling. https://themighty.com/2017/11/phrases-code-for-struggling-today-mental-health/ My children pointed out to me years ago that I lied all the time. People would say, “Hi, how are you?” And I would answer, “Fine.” I would have a death grip on the shopping cart hoping I wouldn’t collapse until I got home. Of course I didn’t tell them how I actually felt because in my opinion they didn’t actually want to know. This raised my awareness and I questioned myself if there was a way to answer honestly. I worked out a list of things I could say. Here are a few:
I’ve had better days.
FINE – Freaked out, Insecure, Neurotic, Emotional
I’m vertically challenged. It is a real challenge to stay vertical.
Above ground is good.
Looking forward to a better tomorrow.
And the ever vague American slang OK.
I know from experience that not every person that asks me, “How I am doing?” actually wants to know. I also learned that if I let my guard down a bit and share a little more than “Fine” I have some interesting conversations and connect with others that chronically hide behind coded words.