Many Faces of Shame

Shame came up fairly early in my counseling.  I was given a book about shame and tried to explain that there was shame and toxic shame only there isn’t a different name for toxic shame so there is shame that is good for you and shame that is bad for you but no wait maybe…

Staycation

Fall break at school and I took a staycation.  I stayed home and did things I wanted to do.  Working on making my sewing area a space I can use and not lose things.  Finished a 3 month crochet project.  Organized sewing projects and played Happy Acres. It was a good week.  I’m glad I…

Dual Awareness

I’m taking a break from the list of best practices because I don’t really want to write about the next one so I am giving myself permission to wait one day.  I think the list is important because it gives a bit of insight of therapy from the perspective of the therapist. It is slow…

Interpreter please

Every once in a while I come across a statement that is so cloaked in psycho babble that it hardly makes sense.  This is one of those time. Continuing with the best practices: https://www.blueknot.org.au/Workers-Practitioners/For-Health-Professionals/Resources-for-Health-Professionals/Best-Practice-Guidelines Understand and attune to the prevalence and varied forms of dissociative responses, the differences between hyper and hypoarousal, and the need to…

Stand up for yourself

To that nasty voice in your head.  Fire your mean boss.  The one that expects perfection the first time.  Expects you to work harder, longer, and more committed than any one else.  That boss in the mirror that criticizes your every move and points out every mistake.  One of the things that I appreciate about…

Attachment Issues

Do people that were abused have attachment issues?  The question really needs a sarcasm font.  The first person that a baby gains attachment to is the first caregiver.  If the caregiver is the one that abuses, neglects and harm that relationship, what does the baby connect to?  Sometimes no one. In the list of best…

Being a hero

Can be detrimental to your health and relationships.  I mentioned in my last post about Rescuer’s High. This is the feeling you get when you come in and fix everything for someone else.  The rush of feeling like a hero even if the solution was detrimental to the person being rescued. I didn’t understand the…

What is support?

I am moving slowly through this list of best practices from the perspective of the therapist.  I’m trying to add in my perspective as a client.  Hopefully, it comes off as helpful and not confusing.  I know that with the hundreds of conversations I had with my counselor there were several times that he understood…