To that nasty voice in your head.  Fire your mean boss.  The one that expects perfection the first time.  Expects you to work harder, longer, and more committed than any one else.  That boss in the mirror that criticizes your every move and points out every mistake.  One of the things that I appreciate about continuing to study about PTSD/CPTSD is coming across great information shared my someone else.  I am listening to Les Brown talk about Standing up for yourself to yourself.  I haven’t listened to all of it yet.  I am loving what I heard so far.  His main emphasis is how to make your dreams happen and sales marketing but what he says about standing up for yourself to yourself resonates with me.  My counselor called it firing the mean boss, the one that I see in the mirror everyday.  https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=bq9X_VItZzA One of the quotes he uses he attributed to Churchill but not verified, “Courage is going from failure to failure without losing enthusiasm.” I experience a bunch of failure.  I also have successes.  I am learning to stand up for myself to myself and I am learning to stand up to others.  This was talked about early on in my counseling over 16 years ago.  Now I am starting to see the work I did pay off.  I am gaining the confidence I didn’t think was possible when I started this healing journey.  The most common misconception people have about healing is how long it will take.  Going from failure to failure and staying optimistic about your future and healing is difficult.  Stand up to yourself for yourself.  Fire your mean boss and stay enthusiastic for your future when you are still slogging through your failures.  Cheering for you.